Is it that the sparks are gone? Wouldn't they work on the marriage if the sparks are there? The husband would not leave the bed to sleep alone unless the sparks are gone, right?
2006-10-21 00:39:01 · 14 answers · asked by wondering 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People seldom split up just because of sex! It sounds like there are other problems, look a little deeper at your relationship!
2006-10-21 00:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wife needs to ask the husband why he is going to sleep alone. Thats the only way to really find out. I have been married a while and sometimes I will get up from the bed and lay on couch just to have sometime to myself. I work a good bit and all my "free time" waking hours I want to give to my family, so the only time I have alone is when everyone else is sleeping. There are many factors that will tell you if the sparks are gone and chances are you know already and just don't want to admit it. All is not lost tough. Try and remember when you guys first fell in love what really turned you on about him, what he did that made you want to be with him. You can start your own sparks and will probably ignite his as well.
To answer your original question, If a woman will make a man feel confident and secure in a relationship then a good man will want to keep the sparks going it really depends on what you and he want out of the relationship at this point. Get that answer and find a way to help him as well as yourself.
2006-10-21 00:54:31 · answer #2 · answered by bldrjck 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men leave when they aren't appreciated. That includes:
1. Constantly being nagged instead of complimented.
2. Being put off for sex, not feeling wanted.
3. Her not having any time for him.
4. When everything revolves around her.
5. When she blows all his money.
6. When her friends become more important then him.
7. When he busts his rear to keep her happy and he learns nothing he does can make her happy.
8. After hearing the 6759th excuse for her not wanting sex... He realizes all the chicks that keep hitting on him are worth a shot. (Men are soooo slow to realize this. No woman is worth that much effort.)
9. When a guy's dealt the 666th double standard, he leaves.
10. Once he realizes she takes everything from him for granted and after hearing (from her) that he's not trying hard enough in the relationship (or with romance) he gets a clue and finally dumps the bad luggage.
2006-10-21 01:28:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because men want their wives to be just like their mothers only with sex added. They want us to take care of them just like mommy did. When men can't have that then they give up on the relationship. Also if the sparks are gone whose fault is that? Probably the woman's right?
2006-10-21 01:12:01 · answer #4 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not happy anymore, not in love. there is a difference between loving someone and being in Love with someone. If the sparks were still there I think people would try to work on it for a while, but if there wasn't improvements then they would probably accept it is over.
2006-10-21 01:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by mnm4213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learning that the love of their life, the one they fell in love with, the one that made them feel so good inside, the one that was so special, the one that made a man feel good about himself, . . . . . . . . . just slowly but surely, disappeared into the sunset, and ceased to exist. . . . . .Men have feelings too, and when hurt, will not always talk about it, and when the hurt grows to the unbearable point, . . . . . . .Your man is gone.
When a woman constantly hears from her girlfriends, about how all men are nothing but brain dead, inconsiderate a - - holes, and why is she doing all those things for him . . . . . . .no matter that the woman has a good man . . . . she starts to listen to the girl friends, . . . . . . . and that is the beginning of the end . . . . . . .I know first hand . . . . . . .I've been there, been through that . . . . . . .Her jealous and envious girlfriends destroyed her marriage . . . .As the old saying goes, misery loves company.
Darryl S.
2006-10-21 01:05:12 · answer #6 · answered by Stingray 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They stop talking,.....communicationg with each other properly..... and start shouting and ignoring one another.....everyone will tell you that marriage is about being able to give a little and take a little.....give the person some space....let them vent their emotions or anger and step back..... and most importantly always try and pick your arguments....it's not important to always have your say.... there are win win situations win lose situations and lose win situaltions.... try and avoid win lose situation.....you may lose more than you want to ....
2006-10-21 01:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by David M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My biggest complaint was her mouth. If there was nothing about today for her to complain about, she would dreg up something from years ago. If I threatened her to shut her up she would explain all my "faults" to her cat, saying I'm not talking to you, I'm talking to my cat". Men tend to say something and it's said and done. Some women like to drag it out. More melodramatic, like the soap operas on TV, never ending.
2006-10-21 00:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by chrisbrown_222 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
selfish the same reason woman separate from men.they think they are better than what they have and have no regard for the vowels they shared
2006-10-21 01:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by yubuggin? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The woman probably has let herself go.
2006-10-21 02:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋