im a stay at home mom who also is mostly remodleingn the house we just purchased.he tells me im fat(5ft2in 148lbs)wich isnt skinny but gimmie a break idont have timto work out with 2 kids and my wifly duties i really do love him and every now and again he really can be nice. i love him but cannot tell him how i feel w/out it getting violent or causing HUGE arguments tryedcounceling dont work.i am his servent because he work 50-90hrs a week to pay for all these things he just had to have. PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-10-21 00:16:09 · 15 answers · asked by whiffany 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You really have to ask other people this Question, seems you answered it yourself.
You have to be kidding, why would you put up with personal attacks, Violence, and being a servant???
Love is not like that, I feel sad I even have to inform you of this...
You are working at home, raising 2 children obviously on your own as he is at work so much, and putting up with abuse at the same time.
Your children too would have to be going through it all to a certain extent, I'm sure they would know what goes on between you and your husband.
All I can say is leave him, find out what real love is before its too late for you to know what its really like.
2006-10-21 00:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by tassie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you work 50 to 90+ hours yourself if you add it all together- laundry, cleaning, cooking, childcare, remodeling, shopping, etc. And I think your job is probably really boring compared to his. And I thought at least you were going to finish with he works a lot to buy stuff for you and the kids, but for himself???? I am sorry. He is either a total jerk or just very ignorant about what your "work" entails. Too bad you can't switch "jobs" for a day. Then maybe he would understand. But don't forget, this is the new millenium. A lot of men now understand this and are realistic. Maybe you can find one of those. Good luck.
2006-10-21 00:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
gezzz. I'm really sorry to hear that. Just tell him flat out there is no way you can do everything hes asking of you and that you understand that he works crazy hours, but you do too! Maybe he can be talked into selling some of those things he just had to have. Just do something before it gets so bad that somebody has to leave.
2006-10-21 00:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest you remove some things off of your busy home life? Leave some of the remodeling alone. Take some time for yourself to think romantically about your man. You are both going to burn yourselves out. When he sees that youre taking time out for yourself and him...he might just join in and enjoy you more by taking some time off from his busy work week. If youre tired and he's tired all the time...when can you be romantic? You start the ball rolling....long baths...some yoga...new hairstyle....some sexy lingerie...cuz it's for him.
Wouldnt you like to come home after a long day to someone who's fresh and sweet smelling and catering? ;) ;)
2006-10-21 00:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well well well..I think that your husband is abusing you Its pretty bad that your scared to even talk to him, I suggest you try again and if he refuses to talk then pack your bags..and leave...you are not going to be happy there with him, calling you names, I don't mean don't cook him supper I mean the verbal abuse should stop...I hope you take advice because if you stay in that situation then you and your kids will suffer.
2006-10-21 02:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by tazzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is hitting you then you need to leave. What are you teaching your two children? And what kind of father and husband is he anyway working so much?????? Maybe he wants a family when it is convienent for him. Find a shelter to help you leave good luck
2006-10-21 01:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your situation to improve, you MUST have a talk with your husband. Just do your best to control your anger, while talking to him Thre is NO other way.Why suffer through this torment another day, talk to him about it today.
2006-10-21 00:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is working a lot of hours, and you are not working outside the home, i believe you should be in charge of that area. BUT, he should NOT be verbally or physically abusing you. if that is the case, and you have been to counseling and it didnt work, LEAVE.
2006-10-21 03:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by melinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be respectul of him because he works so hard for you and your family. You should be doing the cooking and cleaning because he works so many hours.
2006-10-21 01:04:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grab your kids and run...don't look back...if he gets violent for ANY reason it's bad! Bad for you bad for your kids...get out! You are not a servant...you are a mother first and foremost, then a wife.........please please, don't stay there if he's abusive.....go now before it's too late.
2006-10-21 00:33:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋