My husband and I have sex about 5 times a week. I dress up for him, role play, anything he ask really. We watch porn together, but last night he told me I need to let him watch it on his own, and look at naked women whenever he wants. I can't help feeling hurt. Whats going on?
2006-10-21 00:10:35 · 18 answers · asked by jade95661 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he just likes watching porn on his own, thats all
2006-10-21 00:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
boy, you got a lot of answers on this one didn't you.
porn is like sugar candy. boy's it's great when you start. but you need more and more, and more to satisfiy. you need more degrating stuff to get you off. Most guys would kill to have a wife like you, role play! wow. come talk to my wife please.
but seriously, Porn is so destructive its tearing you guys apart.]
now your man doesn't even want you around because you interfer with his fantasy. It's like inviting a young puppy into your home. as he grows you find out he's a wolf cub. he'll eat up your home and steal your man away. it's already starting.
bottom line, when you said your vows there was probably something in there about "forsaking all others," or there should have been.
porn is stealing the affection of your man away from you. it swallows up many men. you've got a fight on your hands cuz porn won't let men go easily. If you love him fight for him.
get him to see what porn really is. selfish, destructive fantasy. no one could fullfil all that stuff in real life. not even the people in the films. they're just actors. throw the wolf out, he's gotta come back and love you. the bible would be a good thing to read--together.
peace out dudette.
frankie chocolate
2006-10-21 01:03:34 · answer #2 · answered by frankiechocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should talk to him about it. I mean, come on, you guys have watched it together in the past, there should be no reason why you can't still watch it together. However, if the porn is the only way this guy is getting turned on, then you have a problem. You need to talk to him and ask him why he wants to watch it alone. Once you have your answer from him, then you'll know whether to be hurt or if there really is a reason to worry. Communication is key. Use it.
2006-10-21 00:18:19 · answer #3 · answered by blackwidow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are weird about that - but give the man some space believe me he will soon realise that all the naked women in pictures and on tv cannot compare to the real thing.
2006-10-21 00:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by riettebotha2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man and we are sexual creatures, I mean they say we think about sex over a thousand times a day or something. He probally just needs a little space and the taboo of looking at women he cant have probally excites him a bit. I wouldnt read into it too much if I were you. Let him do his thing and believe me it will probally make your relationship stronger in the end.
Good luck!
2006-10-21 00:17:54 · answer #5 · answered by wholelottalove4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him space when he asks for it.
Otherwise when he is watching porn you should be with him. Kiss him, stroke him, lick him or better give him head. When he is ready push him down and get astride him. He will realize that on the TV is only a picture and the real thing is right beside him.
2006-10-21 00:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Achilles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your sex life is healthy, but PORN is not usually healthy in a loving relationship. The more he watches porno, the less he will respect women, the less he will respect you. If he's spending too much time doing this, he may be spending too much time thinking about it...less time thinking of you and him...........Good luck
2006-10-21 00:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is trying to push the boundaries or see how far he can push the boundaries. I woud tell him he is more than welcome to watch porn on his own but the key work is "on his own" which is what he'll be if he does. And, just out of interest why is porn so important to him? Can he be intimate with you without the porn?
2006-10-21 00:17:13 · answer #8 · answered by denise b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better him watching other women on video than him saying: "I'm going out with the guys" but he's really going to see the OTHER woman.
2006-10-21 00:15:22 · answer #9 · answered by morningstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel hurt too.What he is doing is selfish and rude I wou;ld revolt!Why does he need that if your being his fantasy queen ?I say he is addicted to porn sees woman as sex objects and if you simply except it its going to tear down your self esteem.You need some boundaries.
2006-10-21 00:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋