I am very concered about my marriage. The communication does not seem to be a part of our marriage anymore. My husband is preparing a home for us to live in, it has been neglected for 20 years ( needs alot of work,) I have tried to help him, but it doesn't seem to get anywhere. I understand that he is "working for us" but i honestly do not see him much and as i stated earlier, he leaves the house about 3 - 4 in the morning to go to his fathers - That is the house that he is fixing up for us. He then comes home around 5 -6 at night and goes to bed at 8:00 . Should i be worried about his actions.?? AM i blind to the situation?? He just doesn't seem to want to come home and spend time anymore. Quite honestly, I feel frustrated.
Do any of you have any experience you can share on this subjest?? Woman or male?? I am at my wits end with this situation. Just tired of the arguing and not seeing him. I like living life to the fullest.(Like, having fun with my partner!!
2006-10-21 00:06:14 · 12 answers · asked by Calilady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please lady please, give your husband a chance. Hell, give him the credit you mentioned (working for "us"). He sounds alot like I was, my wife always hounded me for every damb thing under the sun until I couldn't take anymore.....I was just trying to do the right thing. Try to support him, the chances are...he's just trying to do the right thing for his family. Give him more sex and make him feel good for resting anytime he wants. Afterall, wouldn't you want to be treated that way? Also, have his blood pressure checked (don't nag him, but get it done)
2006-10-21 00:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has a similar schedule. He works 12 hours, leaves about 45 mintures before work and then gets home in about the same, unless he has to stay after. So he is gone almost 14 hours a day, then comes home, eats, and we talk or watch tv for about an hour, then he goes to bed. Sleeps for 6 hours and does it all over again. I hate not seeing him and wish he could be home more, but its his job and he loves it and he is taking care of us and providing us with a good life. I get up with him in the mornings and make him something to eat or some coffee and talk with him and kiss him goodbye, and I try and sleep when he does and am awake when he is. We also make the most of our time together, when he has the day off we spend it together. We always eat supper together, we go shopping together. We try and do the little things together to make up for missing out on the big thigns. If you are unhappy with this, tell him about it, see if there is something you two can do to change this. Hope everything works out for you two..
2006-10-21 00:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to leave at 3 and 4 in the morning too but he was going to see his girlfriend and he never came in before 9p. If this man is working to get this house fixed up for you let him. He could be as frustrated as well that it's taking so long. Fussing about it won't improve things and may build a wedge between you. Help when you can and support his efforts and be patient. Once the works done you will both reap the benefits of working together.
2006-10-21 00:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not normal behavior for a married man in love. You have to ask him what is going on. Make him take some time and go on a date or some other relaxed moment and discuss exactly what you stated in your question. I have been married for 11 years and had fallen into a similar situation. I took everything except work for granted and one day I woke up and it was like work was all I had. You need to talk to him not only for your benefit but for his as well. I don't know how long you have been married but after a while it's hard to keep the passion. You have to adjust your priorities after getting married but you don't have to lose your relationship in the process. I hope this helps a little. :)
2006-10-21 00:19:04 · answer #4 · answered by bldrjck 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bed at 10:30 pm and i wake up at 7:45 am
2016-05-22 07:19:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a job and relieve some of his stress? It sounds as if he's the only one in this marriage. And at the rate he's going, he'll probably get tired of supporting you, while you sit around mulling your fate. You need to relieve his burden, not the other way around. If you don't he'll find someone who does support him.
2006-10-21 00:10:15 · answer #6 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should feel lucky and proud to have a man willing to sacrifice like him. TELL HIM SO! but all work and no play is hard on a marriage so be tactful in how you warn him, he,s consumed with "finishing the job" all us guy's get that way. just love him.
2006-10-21 00:20:16 · answer #7 · answered by Wart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to get a little more sleep, but it doesn't sound strange otherwise. Sounds like he's working too hard to be "living life to the fullest."
Back off him a little.
2006-10-21 02:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by stevis78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are i deep thoughts know that you husband leaving very early in the morning.remember he is doing this for all of you but if you you are suspecting that their is something goin on behind you back you should investigate but not in a way he should know!GOOD LUCKKKKKK.
2006-10-21 00:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just busy. I would be going to be at 7 if I were him or I'd be super tired and cranky.
2006-10-21 00:08:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋