how do you get a guy to be truthful?

Question

my hubby was acting suspicious after got text msg said had to go see pal of his i knew there was no way he went to see his pal didn't have time when i aked him about it he got into a panic got the impression he thought about doing something but changed mind i've tried everything told him knew he was up to something for weeks avoided me i told him i will find out but would rather it came from him now he's changed again couldn't be any nicer won't go out unless me or kids are with him yet for weeks only put his phone on as was going out the door even found out had switched house phone off put it on got some numbers from it but he said they are for his work i've tried being nice to him threatened him am running out of ideas when i ask him something i know by the look on his face he's telling me load off crap

Answer 1

grab him by the balls!!!

Answer 2

You cant MAKE him tell you really. The only option you've got is to call his bluff and tell him that you know he did something and if he doesnt tell you the truth and all of it then you will file for divorce because you cant live with a liar. If he thinks you mean it he may own up. You have to do something because this will just eat away at you otherwise and the suspicion will kill your marraige. Good luck and I hope that maybe he didnt do anything too wrong. xx

Answer 3

Sounds like the Marriage is OVER!!!! People Won't be truthful if they don't want to. You should sit down together and discuss the situation like an adult, married couple should. Or, Don't ask him any more questions about it, instead focus your thoughts and attention on yourself and come to a decision on if you can continue to tolerate a relationship/marriage to an Dishonest husband. Once there is a Doubt in the Honesty of your partner there breeds Suspicion within the Doubter.

DISHONESTY AND SUSPICION WILL DETERIORATE A RELATIONSHIP LIKE A CANCER.

Answer 4

yeah, guys seem to want to think they are getting away with stuff, even though women tend to know what we're up to most of the time anyway.

to me, he's had a bit of a fling, and that's fallen through, so now he's realised how important you and the family are, so he's doing what he can to make up for it.

i'd make a time for a very serious conversation, coz sooner or later you'll find out, so better to be in some sort of control of when you hear. also better to come from him than a third party. sit him down, tell him your suspicions and make it clear that though you're not instantly going to forgive him you are married and that has many obligations, one being truthful and open with each other.

i wish you loads of luck in this.

Answer 5

Sorry to ay it sounds like h is hiding something.
I have seen this before ut maybe nothing major has happened and he is trying to protect you & family.
I know of a friend who had a fling and realised that it was a mistake.He tried to end it and the woman was like fatal attraction she threatened all sorts icluding cutting her wrists and saying she had takenan overdose. She even came to the house telling lies. I'm not saying he has had an affair but maybe he is orried of some stalking problems
Good Luck
Jeff

Answer 6

i knew a guy like that once. wot a prat! the way he spoke about his wife i built up an image that she was a right bunny boiling nasty *****! wen i finally met her she was beautiful in everyway. i started going around there hoping he`d stay in wiv his wife and kids but eventually even me being there he started going missing again. we both thought he had a bit on the side. we were both wrong. he got caught up in heroin and other drugs. wen he got found out he lied about taking them. to take the heat off wot he was doing he started blaming his wife for having affairs wiv me and countless others. needless to say she gave him an ultimatum. stop taking the drugs or get out. the drugs won! she`s now very happy wiv a nice guy she met and her ex is STILL bullshitting his way through life. so sad. u should give him an ultimatum and tell him wots at stake eg you, ur kids and his home. tell him if all that is worth losing. his lying can`t go on because it effects everyone

Answer 7

Which is more important to you:
1. That he is completely honest with you or...
2. That he comes home to you at night?

As long as he lives with you, you will always have the upper hand.

----------------------second thoughts ---------------------------------
On the other hand, it doesn't sound like girl trouble - most men don't even flinch when that comes up. I would be far more worried if it was gambling or loan sharks, something like that, and if things got a lot better soon after payday that's your answer. If its gambling, I would throw him to the wolves sooner rather than later, more so than if its another woman.

Answer 8

There could be so many explantions, don't go overboard with worries. Hopefully there is nothing for you to worry about and if you are spying on your hubby and accusing him of doing something wrong when it's something completely innocent, he might resent you for that. Be careful and try to talk to him calmly. Let him know you are worried but try not to accuse him of any wrongdoing if you aren't 100% sure. There is nothing worse than being accused of being unfaithful by your spouse when you are loyal.

Answer 9

To be honest i don't have any idea's on this one. Maybe you could try and sit and talk to him about the way that you feel. Maybe you could offer to see a marriage counsellor as to how bad you are feeling.
I really hope that you two sort this out and both of you can be happy once more
good luck

Answer 10

You do have a problem since it your hubby. You cannot teach Him to tell the truth cause he wants not to tell the truth. I will recommend to confront him and ask him what you lack. Try to make amends and be ready to forgive if he is interested. That is as good advise I can think of.

Answer 11

You've made one already fatal mistake, you told him you were on to him.....The first rule of a relationship is to get the facts first then freakin let them have it , see you bringing it up already makes you look bad because you don't know the truth you just have a hunch....If I were you apologize to him make him feel more comfortable again then when he does it again bust his *** go off facts not instincts