Would you marry your girlfreind if she worked at burger king?

Question

I mean if she liked it and wanted it to be her career and be a manager ? lets say your were a computer repairman would you deep down think that was lowclass?I just cant really read him and I wonder if he looks down on me.He just says well everybody has to work somewhere.I wonder if it might keep him from wanting to marry me.

management positions pay very well in my area and its fun.

Answer 1

I don't think the profession matters as long as u love each other and u can afford to stay together.

Answer 2

Sounds to me as if it is you who is thinking it was low class.

I'm a bit old fashioned, I suppose, but, I still think it's the man's place to take care of the family. Unfortunately, reality says that people who want to have decent things in life almost require both persons to generate income.

I also think that it is not the job a person does so much as how the person does the job. You do a good job, you should be proud you have a job. You do a lousy job, then, be glad you have a job, and do better.

For the record, I have read stats that show about 75% of CEOs started the work force at McDonald's (I'd suspect fast food in general).

I suspect the idea is, that despise the lack of appreciation from management, customers, and the hard, past pace work and then the minimal wages creates a tough work ethic with those who stick it out, and last, and move up the ladder, there or other jobs.

Don't allow yourself to believe the lies of inadequacy. It doesn't matter where you are in life, what matters is where you are going, and how you get there. You're making an honest living, dont hurt people on the way up.

And, just for argument's sake, if your boyfriend is not accepting of your goals, perhaps it is best to leave him. HOWEVER, I would suspect the problem lies within, more than with him.

And, for the record, how one carries themselves, and how they treat others is where class lies. One can be poor as dirt, but be high class person. And, I have seen many supposedly high class people, who have none.

Be true to thine own self.

Answer 3

OK, I'm going to put a different spin on it. If it bothers you now, then it will bother you after marriage. Don't get into a marriage thinking that this is a phase and you can change her. So, what you really need to decide is whether you can handle the stigma, or whatever you want to call it, associated with having a fast food manager as a wife.

If this bothers you and you can not handle it, you should either seek some professional counseling to determine if you are ready or right to be married to this woman. Your concerns with possible differences in education, perceived social status, and maybe motivation concerns need to be addressed before marriage. You should never harbor this type of resentment as you are bound to throw it in her face at some point.

Love her for you she is and who she wants to be, not who you think she should be. If you can't do that, move on so that you both can find someone who can accept and love each other.

Answer 4

It depends. If you both are uneducated and content to be that way, then this "match" would work. If however, you have goals and want a college degree and hope to live a middle class life, then you will grow tired of being with someone with little ambition. Moreover, as you make your way in the "white collar" world, you'll soon tire of her "blue collar" lack of earning power, her burger king lifestyle and lack of intellectual curiosity, her conversations that center around motivating minimum wage workers, and the smell of grease on her clothes when she comes home. You may want to re-think your "career" at Burger King. It sounds like you have a low self- esteem problem. If you live in this country, then you can aspire to a better career than Burger King. Go to the Labor dept. office near where you live and find out about job training programs that would offer you a more financially stable lifestyle. Then your boyfriend might consider marrying you.

Answer 5

If he truly loves u it shouldn't matter to him if u cleaned out horse stalls. It's the principal that u are willing to give 50% of you guys relationship, if he doesn't see that then he's the one with the problem. No offense to him I don't know him, but I do know how men and women that have that kind of connection 50-50 it works. I've been with my husband 25yrs and married him when I was 22 and was a phone solictor. Actions sometimes speak, better than words. U put into the relationship just the same percent that he is. Trust me on this. Been there done that!

Answer 6

Hey it's all about perception. See those ppl in Darfur & in the most awful places in the world consider working at ANY job to be opportunity. Just look at all of the ppl trying & sometimes dying to get to the USA to work. If anyone judges another by where they work, then they're lowclass.
My other half works fast food & i look at it like this...i'm at home preparing dinner for our family & i'm so grateful that we have shelter, warmth/ac, water, & food. Then i realize that at one time, i was alone in this world & my life depended on those who prepared my dinner for me. It was nice to see familiar faces at mcdonalds, taco bell, white castle & the dives...i feel proud that she's preparing a dinner/lunch meal for someone working hard at the hospital or nursing home or construction & for those who are going to be eating alone....again, tonite. I know she always sends em off w/a smile & a good heart. And yes, she's a manager & intends to keep it that way, just like her boss has been doing for over 17 years. Nothing wrong with work doll & i'd believe him when he says it's cool by him. Lift yourself up & recognize that you are doing an awesome great service.
Good Luck g/f. Peace

Answer 7

If you are asking if he looks down on you....I must ask....do you look down on you. If the answer is no, then who cares what he thinks. If you make a good living and are proud of what you do, in a manager position in fast food you can help support many young people who you will help give future employment skills...if this makes you proud and you worry that he looks down on you then you should not want to marry him yourself.

If you think you may want to do more in life for yourself then see what it is you like about fast food (ie fast pased, working with people) and see what other ways you can use those skills in a new job...but do it if you want to, not if he wants you to.

Enjoy what you do and you'll be fine.

Answer 8

He's with you now and if he's asked you to marry him why are you questioning his sincerity? Any honest job is decent work and if you choose to make BK your career ladder then do it. Being in a relationship means supporting each other and if he doesn't support you in your goals then there is something missing. You have to live with the decisions that you make so you decide for yourself and don't let someone else's "looking down on your job" stop you from achieving what you want.

Answer 9

`My wife won't let me marry my GF. Just kidding.

There's nothing wrong with a career in the fast food business. Being the manager of a FF restaurant isn't low-class.

Answer 10

Of corse I would thats silly to even ask.Love doesnt set boundaries on itself does it? Why should we. I imagine anyway that a person could make an OK living as a manager at BK, couldnt they?