why are british?
why are british white people so cold ?its like i am new here "studing"! i catch my bus everyday and see loads of white getting on the bus and trust me no one till now gave me a warm smile .... no one wants to sit next to me duh all right i look like south arabian but i am just lik one of u with grey eyes and fair skin n red blood....i walk alone on da road and no one even looks at me..its like british people dont have eyes to look! i wanna know whats up with this..why are they so cold to me
2006-10-20 23:21:53 · 14 answers · asked by Yasmin 3 in Education & Reference ➔ Studying Abroad
I think us Brits are generally cold to the unknown.
I'll tell you this, hun, I'm currently in Spain doing my Erasmus year. Although my avatar differs, I'm blonde and very fair skinned. I find very few Spaniards talk to me, and I would think it's because they know I'm not Spanish and that it's most probable that my Spanish isn't up to scratch etc so they tend to ignore me.
However, I understand your case is different. I think also, because of all the terrible incidents we've had in Britain, a lot of them rooting from terrorists of the middle East sort of region, we're very aware of the kind of people that come from that area now and we tend to avoid them,just out of defensive instinct (and to an extent, racist instinct).
2006-10-21 11:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by CalamitySymphony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A British person in a strange British city would get much the same reaction; but being British they would find it easier to fit in than someone from so far away. 'Personal space' may be an American term, but it is very important in Britain, especially in the physical sense. This means that people will tend to take an isolated seat on buses & trains rather than sit next to a stranger. Its not personal & its not because you are Arabian.
2006-10-20 23:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems your in alot of low self esteem.. so what if they dont call you.. and why does it bother you.. end of the day you come on to this world alone and leave alone.. in life many people will walk in and out your life but the your true friends will leave footprints.. the more times you ask yourself this question you get paranoid... dont think too much and in time and watch without realiseing you see some friendly people...beause im british and im totally opposite.. hope that is the answer to your question
2006-10-20 23:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Yes B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are told not to meet people's eyes because so many -especially young- people interpret that as a threat (possiby because so they are out of their mind on drugs/drink). So the only time we look at people is when we have to - buying a bus ticket, thanking someone for opening a door, that sort of thing. It's not great, but it saves having someone bawl at you 'What are you looking at? Where do you get off...'
...and after a while not looking at people becomes a habit...
2006-10-20 23:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by Tertia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about it,it's a national trait.They can be very good friends,once they get to know you,but it takes time.Why don't you try to make eye contact,smile & say hello,i'm sure you will get a friendly response.Of course they have their fair share on ignorant people,so don' be put off by that type.The British can seem to be very reserved,but they are ok .
2006-10-20 23:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by michael k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not many people here want to make the first move for fear of rejection. Courtesy seems to be dying out here. Sometimes old people will reply if , it's early in the morning, or they feel safe in the present surroundings.
2006-10-20 23:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we don't find this problem in mix race place, like London or Birmingham.
where is there only the predominance of one race, careful, they may eat you up! I am not joking, own experience.
and the white old British are very nice, they don't smile coz here we have cold weather and rain most of the year but they are very nice and gentle and good humoured.
2006-10-20 23:31:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've got to be so careful over here now. You can't just come over & expect to make friends so easily cos we've had more than our fair share of terrorism. Just be yourself - don't ask people to be friendly. You'll soon make friends with the class you study with.
2006-10-21 00:06:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not only you. This is happening everywhere, the bigger the city, the less communication between strangers. Have you tried smiling first? Try it and I bet you get a smile back.
2006-10-20 23:25:49 · answer #9 · answered by IC 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its because the 'majority' of Brits are fed up with being treated as second class citizens in their own country.so we have developed a dislike and mistrust of most foreigners especially Asians
2006-10-20 23:28:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋