im a gay virign. i have been going out with this guy for a year now and well he says if i dont sleep with him he is going to leave me. should i let him take my virginity or should i wait? should i go all the way or should i just perform oral? what if he has an STD?
2006-10-20 23:10:33 · 10 answers · asked by 1q2w3e 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You have to protect yourself. His demands are for his feelings only and have no regard for yours. If you love him, you could compromise with oral. If he has been faithful to only you, he should be clean but confirm this with him. You can get an STD from doing oral. Both of you can have a screen done, even if you are a virgin doing this together might make him feel better. People do things for the ones they love, but love doesn't DEMAND. Never let anyone force you to do something you find uncomfortable.
2006-10-21 03:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like this guy is the one to lose your virginity with. If you have been going out with him for a year and are only considering sleeping with him so that he does not leave you, then you should let him leave and find someone else.
2006-10-21 06:50:06 · answer #2 · answered by Spyder 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer. If he is so selfish to not respect your virginity then he isn't worth hanging with one more minute. Dump the bum and find someone who will respect your virginity. Once you contract a STD there is no turning back and a lot to regret. Protect your virginity at all costs.
2006-10-21 06:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by BP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are considering this you should already know him well enough t to talk- communicate that you do not just want sex but a relationship and have been saving yourself.... If he dosent reassure you he is healthy and make you feel special because you don't just want a bed partner then remain friends- (We all need them) and move on to the next relationship- Good luck- Don't rush into anything and I hope you do not have too many harsh and negative comments sweety-
2006-10-21 06:14:07 · answer #4 · answered by admiredi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Only do what you're comfortable with doing. If he keeps pressuring you to do something you're not ready to do he doesn't respect you. As for the safety issue, have the both of you get tested if neither of you are sure. It's a good idea to get tested anyways to be safe.
2006-10-21 11:10:51 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he don't love you enough , cause only one thing he needs from you is your body and sex.
Well , if this thing is not so important for you ,then you can do everything you want.
I also think ,that he'll leave you and after sex too.
Life is cruel sometimes, don't you think so?
2006-10-21 06:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by woo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask your self dose he love you
or just wants you for sex
if he just wants you for sex
you need to rethink
if that is all you are
a sex object
leave him if you don't want sex with him
but not until you tell him how you feel
always wear protection
better to safe then sorry
2006-10-21 06:37:32 · answer #7 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u don't trust him, so there must be sth wrong, he hasn't been able to create that sensation of confidence in u. So do however u wish, not what he dictates u to.
2006-10-21 07:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by ddyk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't deserve to be your first if he is throwing you ultimatums. You can do much better, and you owe it to yourself to find someone who will respect your comfort level.
2006-10-21 06:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do what he wants do what you want!
2006-10-24 22:33:01 · answer #10 · answered by robleswilber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋