What if he said it is over but you do not know if that is true? And what if he said they may stay together for the child? Explain your answers please.
2006-10-20 23:07:59 · 12 answers · asked by wondering 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he could be concerned about the impact of a divorce on the welfare of the kids (spliting the assets, the trauma of the process) and so yes a separated man may never divorce officially. But advise to you, he is excess baggage and you could never be happy with an undecided man. You have to move forward. That would be the right thing to do.
2006-10-20 23:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, No I would not date a separated man, he is still married regardless of whether they are living together or not. His wife still wants him back, then stay out of the picture. You do not want to even be considered a reason for the failing of their marriage if it does not work out between them. Let him come to you when the divorce is FINAL. Then you can go about a relationship with no second guessing as to his motives.
Secondly, If he is telling you that they may stay together for the sake of the child then it is NOT over between them. Only the marriage will be over when the ink on the divorce papers is dry, their relationship with each other will never really be over because they share a child together.
2006-10-21 06:23:34 · answer #2 · answered by madevali 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, especially if he is saying that they may stay together for the child. Not only has this type of thing been shown to generally be more damaging to the child than if the parents had divorced, it means that the man is obviously not ready to commit. This can only end in tears.
2006-10-21 06:19:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. In the end you would be the one paying for a rash decision to get involved with a married man and that's a no win situation. I would wait until he is divorced. He seems to not know what he wants to do anyway so you really should not get involved with him. He has shown that he doesn't respect you anyway by coming to you with such baggage. It's also selfish and inconsiderate to get a third party wrapped up in this kind of thing. You can get an unattached man and be happy.
2006-10-21 06:25:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to examine the whole situation. If you are having fun in the relationship and are not thinking about him for long-term, you could see him and keep yourself open for dates with other people.
If you are looking for a long-term person, he may work out at some point in the future, but it seems like he has a lot to work on right now. It would be better to stay in touch, but give him some space and time.
If you chose to continue to see him and then end up falling deeply in love with him, you really could be setting yourself up. If you feel like you are headed down that path right now, back off immediately. It seems like you both could use time to think this through.
2006-10-21 06:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Zana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
NO dont date him until they are legally divorced or you are coming between what God put together. Take yourself out of the picture and he might get lonely and go back no matter what he says to you.If you date him and he sleeps with you, you are sleeping with a married man.Just call it quits for a while and see what happens.
2006-10-21 06:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by butterflyspy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't date him. He is either all mine or nothing at all. You would invest so much in the relationship and then one day he would decide that he needs to be with the mother of his child leaving you broken hearted. He would never really be yours.
2006-10-21 06:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Cinderella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. I wouldnt date a separated man if 'I knew' he was separated. Nope. Fresh problems!!
2006-10-21 06:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way, not even if his wife didnt want him back unless she had been unfaithful and they had never had children.
2006-10-21 06:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by angelvic_83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"over" means divorce papers in hand seperate homes joint custody......"might stay together for child"......that's a fire alarm..exit the relationship.....
2006-10-21 06:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋