2006-10-20 22:50:22 · 22 answers · asked by MJ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not difficult for a guy to be monogamous. I've been with my wife for over 11 years and NOT once have I cheated.
Some guys just don't avoid the temptations. It could be difficult if....
1. You go to the beach and watch young girls in bikini's all day.
2. You go partying with your single friends.
3. You go out drinking a lot. Drinking leads to a LOT of cheating from both women and men.
4. You don't spend a lot of time with your family.
5. You weren't raised in a family where monogamy and treating women right was treasured.
I think guys and gals should just spend more time with each other and do things in the right way and stay away from the bad things like drinking.
According to this Cosmo poll http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/men/menu/articles/0,,426370_525871,00.html women cheat more than men!!!!
2006-10-21 20:48:33 · answer #1 · answered by commish_guy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is difficult for men in general to be monogamous, but it is possible. Some of my female friends have zero tolerance policy for cheating. You can't change a man's behavior but you can choose a monogamous man out of severals. You have options.
2006-10-21 06:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is difficult for anyone - men or women - to be monogamous. It's not impossible, though, but a person really has to want to stay monogamous. You can help someone want to stay monogamous, but you cannot make them and if they stray, it would not be your fault.
I think today it is more difficult because there are more messages out there saying that infidelity is OK. Also with the Internet and websites like www.asleymadison.com and Adult Friend Finder that are specifically designed to help married people make discrete contacts, it is easier and easier for a spouse with a wandering eye to find a willing partner.
So I come back to my original statement - a person must want to be monogamous, because if they don't, it is all to easy to find alternatives.
2006-10-21 05:57:57 · answer #3 · answered by Zana 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is difficult for a man to be monogamous if he truly wants to be. I think the problem comes in where men tend to get in a relationship just because its convenient, and they are still interested in other women. Personally right now I don't want a monogamous relationship, so I'm not in one. But if I decide in the future that I do want one, it wouldn't be difficult to stop talking to other women.
2006-10-21 05:53:45 · answer #4 · answered by captaincoolbeard 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think its a dual gender problem, the majority of those men are with a woman, that means that if they are cheating, so is the woman.
It takes two to tango, according to many relationship experts 4 out of 5 marriages will be affected by infidelity at some point in the relationship.
In my case, I am monogamous, but my wife cheated with my (ex) best friend who is married.
2006-10-21 05:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon the man. Many men are monogamous, but the good looking ones that women throw themselves at seldom are. Moral of the story you're better off with a man who will be there for you than a guy with matinee idol good looks.
2006-10-21 06:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by Superstar 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think its not difficult to be monogamous , most men i think have thought of other women or do look at other women but would never dream of cheating on their partner,
as other men who have a great history of juggling women have difficulty staying monogamous so it really depends!
but to answer the question simply its difficult in some cases and less difficult in others really it can go either way depending on the person .
2006-10-21 05:59:01 · answer #7 · answered by asian_smartie 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Saying that it is not possible for men to be monogamous is a line of crap that cheaters tell their wives and girlfriends in some kind of pathetic way to say that men can not control their urges or flat out say no to bad choices. I have been married for 7 years and I can't think of anything more hurtful or disrespectful that I could do than cheat on my wife. Everyday she works hard for us both to continue to have a great life together. She works out, cleans up, brushes her teeth, everything to look nice for herself and for me... I don't see how any man could hurt someone in that way. If you are truly unhappy in your marriage then be a real man and work on making things better, or end things before you stray.
2006-10-21 05:59:38 · answer #8 · answered by No More 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Its certainly not impossible if the man in question never allows himself to be in a a situation that can lead to something else.
Example: being alone with someone who is very attractive and flirtatious. If alone, the odds are high he will capitulate.
No opportunity can equal monogamy.
Opportunity and circumstances will equal at the very least a one night stand.
2006-10-21 07:10:39 · answer #9 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's possible for men to be monogamous. But I think most men, if they aren't bound by religion or ethics, would prefer to have multiple partners. I heard a saying once that I think of everytime I consider the question you're asking:
Every woman wants one man to fulfill her every need.
Every man wants every woman to fulfill his one need.
Of course this rule doesn't apply to everyone, but I think there is some truth behind it.
2006-10-21 06:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by KT 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋