ive recently broken up with my boyfriend we were best friends for 5 yrs and together for 5 months, but i want him back so much we broke up on Sunday and all ive been doing is crying and i get angry really quickly, im at the point where i hate myself and i know nothing is going to be ok for me, im not going to kill myself because i have 2 young daughters but i will hurt myself i deserve to be hurt, it was over a silly row and now iv lost him for gd he just wont take me back
2006-10-20 22:31:54 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
look you have to move on take some alone time and stay close to your friends. if its ment to be he will come back to you
2006-10-20 22:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by brandonbamboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it his pride that's keeping him away from you ??? Ask yourself that ...
I've been in the same situation before, so a word of friendly tip. Don't run after him. That's when he'll start treating you badly. It's easier said than done. But try to go out with girlfriends. Not with ones who might depress you.
Coz at this point of your life, you might want to sit and cry all day long. But it's not gonna help you. Bounce back. Tell yourself you're a survivor. Try some self-therapy, even though you might start bawling half-way through.
Nobody is worth dying for. Don't waste your tears and energy over someone who is not worthy of your love. If you love him, set him free. If he comes back to you, he's yours. If he doesn't, he was never meant to be.
TIME is the healing factor. You know you're strong, admit it to yourself. Deep down, all human beings are capable of surviving in this world. You're a survivor. You'll be fine. Think positive. Go out, take a walk in the park, go to the movies [make sure it's a comedy], and have lunch or dinner with friends ...
Good luck :-)
Remember this : Nobody can take away your pain, so don't let anybody take away your happiness :-)
2006-10-21 06:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time a few days will be the hardest but don't be too quick in judgement, and whatever you do don't drink any alcohol as that is a depressant. Think of what the argument was about decide if you were wrong or him. Then tell yourself if it was a silly argument and neither of you were at fault then get on the phone and call him. Tell him that you realise it was a stupid argument and can you get together over coffee and talk with out going back on the past few days. Tell him you miss him terribly and would he just think about what you have together. Then tell him you will leave it up to him to get back to you and if your relationship is strong it will survive this little hurdle. Good luck
2006-10-21 05:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is a really hard time for you but you shuold first of all know that these things do happen in life but you have to be stong in fact worst things happen but you have to take each day as it comes and one step at a time. try and hang out with your friends n spend time with your daughters. make sure the guy knows you r sorry and want him back n just let him be if its meant to be he'll come back if not he won't. but as a re assurance if he doesn't come back because of some small row you have u should know that he would have left you anyway not now maybe later n who know what u would lose then. so just cheer up n take life easy.
2006-10-21 05:45:12 · answer #4 · answered by sleek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first try to get some lavender and chocolate into you-- these will help you to think more clearly, then think on exactly what it was that you did-- not as punishment, but for understanding... if what you did was really that horrible, then (and dont take this offensively, but) how old are you?- are you going through any hormonal changes? 30 and up, you will experience severe mood swings now and again as your body prepares for menepause in the next 10 to 15 yrs........... then try to get some kind od help-- please dont narcotics- as these can cause dependance-not the best thing to deal with in light of the situation, but your local health food store will tell you what you can do naturally to calm down your nerves.....also try talking with some of your same aged girl friends- if you dont have any, make some.... it sounds silly, but this can sometimes be the best therapy, its kid of like when someone says "i know how you feel" at a funeral-- but if they dont. right now your social life will play a crucial role on how well you deal with stress.... and as far as i can help w/ your ex-boyfriend, if he refuses to take you back, and you dont normaly act like you did to upset him- if its a once in ablue moon kind of thing- i think that falls under "mistakes", and you may have to pick the peices, you really cant make someone love you- as a matter of fact, the more you try, the more likely theyll be to resist. i really hope that you can get over this, your children depend on you (i know, no pressure, right? ;) im sorry but its true- just try these things out, and i really wish the best...
2006-10-21 05:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by nickname4anne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hey hey clam down there hurting yourself isnt the way to go either i have lost three friends to suicide and i am only 16 and i am still fine there will be more men out there have u tried going up to him and talking to him calmly at least u guys can be friend if u dont get back together but remember think about the kids
2006-10-21 05:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by Tblacklegacy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first be grateful that you have two children who need their mom they have to come first if it is meant to be he will give you another chance but this may take some time if it is not meant to be then God has something else in life for you please do not hurt yourself everyone makes mistakes hurting yourself will only hurt and scare your children talk to someone that is sincere and will truly listen to you whenever you feel like you might hurt yourself call this person and get it out then hug your kids and remember they will be in relationships someday and will remember what you have taught them good luck and have a good day
2006-10-21 14:09:56 · answer #7 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should find someone you can talk to..i know it seems the end of the world for you right now but you have to be strong for your children..and there is light at the end of the tunnel i can assure you....and to the sick prat ..tell 6rv..who as only joined this site today...if its only sick answers that you can give you should be strung up from the nearest tree the booted off this site for good
2006-10-21 06:01:27 · answer #8 · answered by michael b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not deserve to be hurt --- never think that
if it was a silly row then you both need to sit down and TALK to each other --- no fighting not disagreements just a meanful discussion --- if you care for each other then it will be easy
2006-10-21 06:05:30 · answer #9 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question to you is, are you really done with him? If so, you should move on and do something in every second so that you can forget him as time goes by.
2006-10-21 05:41:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋