I don't have as many friends as other people might have, and what few I do have I'm really, REALLY close to. But I just don't like engaging in the activities that everyone else in the group like to do. Paintballing, rpging, Xbox Live, virtually everything they do just does not appeal to me on any level at all. Whenever they ask me what I'd like to do to spend time with them, I can't offer any alternatives aside from going to the movies (but who wants to spend $9 a night just to hang out?). I make an honest to God effort to try to get into what they're into, but I just can't. What can I do?
2006-10-20 22:08:03 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I DON'T want new friends. I just don't like doing most of what they like doing. :(
....And don't suggest that maybe I get into a relationship, alright? That's a WHOLE other issue I'd rather not get into....
2006-10-20 22:29:11 · update #1
I don' follow the crowd. I only do things that interest me!!!!
I will join my friends if I find that their choices are interesting and fun. When I was a teenager the only thing that I would accept is a cigarette. Never got drunk or tried any type of drug . It was just not me!!!!
I like being in a group of friends but I don't like to do everything they do. I have my ideas and personality and I like also to do things on my own. I love to travel, ( I have traveled throughout Europe ) which my friends and cousins have never left the USA:
I like to go out on weekends, go to museums, go shopping ( even alone) spend some time on this site, I love to eat out at good restaurant, etc.... I just enjoy my life !!!!
However, we are all different and may.-be you have grown out of this group and now you are interested in different things.
Try to meet other people and when this group of friends decide for something interesting you can join them. To keep in touch with all doesn't mean you need to go out with them frequently.
Have a wonderful day!!!
2006-10-20 22:49:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you try.
Instead of thinking so pessimestically about the activities, think of it in a way you can attempt to like it. Even if you can't, ENJOY the time you are spending with you friends. You don't have to enjoy the activity, just the time you're spending with them.
Also, get into other interesting activities, so you can suggest it to them. Maybe you're the kind who prefers to hang out at a cafe and chat? Find something.
Since you're trying so hard to like their activities, you tell them that you would like them to try some activities, you like doing. Hopefully, they'll like it as much as you do too.
Good luck,
Peanut
2006-10-20 22:37:21 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me....aside from having lunch every now and again or planning a movie night at the others house not too much unless you start discussing activities that none of you have done and try those. And if not.....I'll be at the mall come sit beside me at the theater
2006-10-20 22:12:24 · answer #3 · answered by xxsanchabonitaxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find friends with different interests. Join a chess club. A book club. Maybe you like to be by yourself (This does not make you anti-social-or a loner-it is not a flaw), write books. or paint. Pick a topic you like and learn as much as you can about it. There is nothing wrong with liking movies! Go to Operas or concerts. Join Aikido. Maybe get a relationship going. Happiness is what one perceives it to be.
2006-10-20 22:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey no one has a lot of good friends. Most people call acquaintances friends. If you have two best friends in your entire life you are a very lucky person. You have a right to your own space and are not afraid of your own company. That makes you a leader, not a follower.
2006-10-20 22:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a loner myself with few selected friends but find time to engage in group activities.
But, it`s a good idea to find new ones who have the same interests that we have in that way we may spend our idle moments with them. Needless to say that we can develop new interests or share our ideas with them.
2006-10-20 22:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by maconsolviaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im the same way..i even started avoiding friends because,its like i get so bored..but i can talk to them on the phone at times..I guess you just have to find true friends who like to do what you do..maybe renting vids..and watching tv? Really think about it and jot it down in a journal and then act on it. Good luck!
2006-10-20 22:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by yahooaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got a realistic approach. As you know life , health and time are most valuable things. One should utilize these things carefully. All great people, who have created history, didnt take part in these low level and cheap activities.
2006-10-20 22:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by MY Regards to All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try and find friends that u share the same interest with or stick with these ones you have and just do your thing.just because people r your friends it doesnt mean you shud have the same interests u cud just be there for each other when neccessary.
2006-10-20 22:27:50 · answer #9 · answered by sleek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It 's OK to be a loner I am one myself ,but if you're only spending $9 a night you aren't going to have many friends even if you wanted to.
2006-10-20 22:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by Big Eagle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋