I recently decided to end my relationship with my boyfriend because he was having a lot of jealousy problems and we met up to sort it out and say our goodbyes last night but as we was walking through a park, we got mugged and my boyfriend was badly hurt and had his wallet stolen. And the whole point of meeting up was to end things but It turned out more tragic. I stayed with him and called the police and went to hospital with him and I felt bad for him, and tried my best to make him feel ok. But I'm sort of confused what to do now because I wanted to break up, but it seems like the worst time ever and I don't want him to be depressed, he's really low most of the time so it could make him 100 times worse.
He stepped up to protect me and really i should see him as my hero, but people keep telling me that 'just because you got mugged doesnt mean you should forget how bad he was to you before' I just don't know what to do, any advice people? thnx
2006-10-20 22:02:51 · 7 answers · asked by toyotagirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the reasons why I wanted to brake up with him are because he didnt like me meeting new people at uni, he always accused me of cheating if i met a male friend, he wouldnt let me go to clubs even if it was just with girls. And he always had an issue with me because i had lots of ex bf's and i was his first girlfriend so he did'nt like me not being a virgin... we had lots of problems so i think breaking up is right.
but should i do it right now?
2006-10-20 22:17:43 · update #1
I know jealousy in a relationship can be the cause of its destruction. Anyway my dear… it’s not time to tell him about break up. The mugging things should be a sign that this is not the time to stop what you had, you must focus on him and help him first to be a better person before you try to make some moves of leaving him. Love in the first place is about giving… not just physically, it is all about everything. Do you think why he’s acting like that before? To have a great b/f you must be a great g/f too. You don’t love him truly if you’re going to dump him just like that. I know he’s sometimes too much of handling about your relationship, why don’t you try to ask yourself the reason why he’s doing this to you? Maybe he just really loves you that much but sometimes we don’t realize our part in the relationship we made, we are the partners so we must try the one who’s having some kind of problems. If you really cannot forgive him for being that person, just give him one more time to recover from that kind of incident before you tell everything to him one by one. Don’t add some weights on the burden he has from the moment.
2006-10-21 01:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by herzae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are on the right track, dont just blurt it out. Gradually build up to it. Tell him that maybe you'd still want to be friends and be there for him through all that he is going through. Be a friend to him through the process of the mugging. Don't wait to tell him because that could only lead to it being harder to tell him or him falling more in love with you and him taking it harder and if he had problems with the relationship before he could get worse if you wait too long. Use your best judgement.
2006-10-21 05:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although both of u hv broken off, you can show yr concern to an extent as a friend. Since u hv decided to leave him, be determined to leave him and move on.
2006-10-21 05:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by Truesurvival 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should move on, as these sort of things would keep happening. all that should matter to you right now is if you are feeling good with him or no. its a waste of your life if u simply let it go and keep suffering. be strong and go ahead! he should understand if he truly likes you.
2006-10-21 05:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not enough info on why you broke up here, but then again I'm a guy so maybe I don't get it quite. Please rewrite a new question expressing his jealousy more to get a better idea on how to handle it.
2006-10-21 05:10:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave the whimp
2006-10-21 05:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jo r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i SAID LEAVE HIM IMEDIATLY HE IS ONLY PLAYING WITH YOUR FEELINGS. get out AND START A NEW LIFE HUN.
2006-10-21 05:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by spatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋