so, what does it mean when a guy (an ex) says that he really misses you(consistently sending you emails, however not obsessively)?
and that he keeps trying to maintain friendship and/or contact with you. and you insist, but he keeps on trying anyway. is it harsh to ignore him?
2006-10-20 21:46:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we aren't together because he made the choice to go overseas. and i gave him three chances. i felt that he's a selfish person who only cares about what he wants, inconsiderate and stingy.
2006-10-20 21:53:20 · update #1
but i just really wanna know what he means?
(however, we've not spoken at all since end of last year...then on and off he sends his regards...but i'm not interested because i will not forget what he did to me, but i forgive him) does that make sense?!
2006-10-20 21:56:28 · update #2
i still have feelings for him. but i think it's not good enough coming from him after many chances in the past. i hate him yet i still like him. hmph!
2006-10-20 22:06:51 · update #3
it probably means he misses you and values you and the friendship you had once.
if you are or were his friend just take it as is. if you don't want him to write or contact you anymore hey, just tell him.
the biggest problem in any kind of relationship is miss understandings. now think when he tell you this do you play along or tell him to get over it. is he getting that same vibe or signal from you. do you ever call him and tell him you miss him, or just want to hear his voice or anything similar to that?
if you no longer want his friendship cut him off.
just because you break up with someone doesn't mean you have stopped loving them. if there was a great friendship before the relationship you would be surprised how that kind of love never leaves someone. but only you know the answer to the question.
good luck
2006-10-20 21:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by diablito69us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want to take him back then straight tell him that. As far as what it means, it could mean a number of things. Maybe he really does miss you. Maybe he's just lonely and you're someone familiar. Maybe hes horny. There are dozens of reasons an ex will want to maintain contact with you. Just follow your heart and let it lead you where it feels you should be. If its meant to be then you can forgive and forget and things will work out, if not then eventually he'll get the hint and leave you alone.
2006-10-21 05:05:42 · answer #2 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he reaching out to you in hopw that you can rekindle what you once had. If you want him to leave you alone then you should tell him , but if you are willling to give friendship a try then try that.. It would be harsh to ignore him without giving him a reason so he can have some closure and move on. Ignoring him would be selfish.
2006-10-21 04:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He misses you madly ma-am....When a man says he misses you, he means it....Just consider about the options you have in your hand....
Do you miss him too????
If so try to compromise with him and come to an agreement....since he decided & left you, ask him to call you????and discuss with him....ask him what does he really mean by "really misses you".... whether he wants you back????dont be afraid to take the first move....
if you want him back too....just go for it....
I THINK BOTH OF YOU ARE IN DEEP LOVE!!!! DONT MISS IT!!!!HE MAY HAVE MADE A WRONG DECISION OF LEAVING YOU....BUT NOW HE MAY BE REGREATING FOR THAT....
I think its just a small prob between you two....he hasnt cheated or hasnt done anything bad , isn't it????so its difficult to find a guy like that....
anyway ignoring is not acceptable....if you dont wanna receive any mails from him just say it direct.... dont ignore!!!!thats really rude....
anyway....ALL THE VERY BEST TO BOTH OF YOU!!!!
2006-10-21 05:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by banju 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, the horny thing is out, since he's overseas, and there is internet porn and other women......maybe had a change of heart. Make him work to show how much he cares....BUT, maybe something overseas was really important to him, like a job?
2006-10-21 04:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it's obvious he still likes or loves you, I'ts not bad to keep in contact with your ex, unless you have another boyfriend, because im sure he won't like it. If you can picture your ex with another girl and have absolutely no reaction, is okay to be friends, but if you cant, that means you still feel for him. Its up to you in the end!!
2006-10-21 04:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by elenaki_5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignoring him is the only way to go, in my opinion. That and telling him that if ignoring him won't do the trick, the next step will be a restraining order.
2006-10-21 04:49:07 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends..he may just be lonely..or wants to have you as a friend. I had an ex who was just like that,but i could tell he didn't really like me,it really confused me. I guess people just wish they could hold onto a piece of the past is all.
2006-10-21 04:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by yahooaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's not harsh to ignore him. It's your life, and you have the absolute right to invite or reject anyone you please. But if you no longer want this person in your life, I wouldn't ignore him. We men have a tendency to take no response for a "definite maybe."
If you're sure you want him out then you must be very clear in communicating that his future correspondence with you is NOT welcome, and to please leave you alone. You have to confront this head-on.
2006-10-21 04:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah - people dont really care about eachother unless they have a relationship with them. He just is having a harder time of finding a repalcement like you did.
2006-10-21 04:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋