If a person gives no sound reason for his suspicions, such as of his spouse's fidelity, should others be advicing that person on how to discover if his spouse is unfaithful, or tell him to relax until he has a reason, other than a baseless hunch, to doubt his spouse's fidelity?
2006-10-20 21:29:00 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
So all know, the basis for my question isn't personal. I'm just concerned about the ethics of what seems to me to be feeding into someone's paranoia.
2006-10-20 21:33:54 · update #1
It depends on the relationship of all the parties involved; in this case, it sounds like you are the friend and parties are your friend and his wife and that maybe you think your friend may be a bit insecure in his relationship and may be jumping to conclusions, but you want to be a good friend to him.
In intimate relationships such a marriage, sometimes a spouse will intuit and pick up on subtle clues that something is amiss even without proof; your friends feelings may be justified. It is not your place to determine that...only a trained professional can help him sort that out.
In the situation above, ethically, the best thing to do is to be a good friend is to listen to him without offering ANY ADVICE and offer that you are there for him regardless of how things turn out with his spouse.
2006-10-21 02:41:02 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the old saying goes, I think you should let sleeping dogs lie. Many times, irrepairable damage can be done to a relationship by rooting around in a spouse's personal life without cause. Yes, I believe that EVERYONE has a private, personal life, even if you are married.
2006-10-21 06:23:47 · answer #2 · answered by turtle girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hummmm. That is a good question, there are a lot of variables.
First, in my heart......why should someone try to put that kind of suspicions in their heart?
I truly believe, who ever is doing it....Is trying to break up their Marriage.
I would say..that is not a friend.......He should throw him out of their home. I know, that is rude to say.......However, tis is best, that he never, ever puts thoughts in his head, that are totally incorrect. They love each other......
2006-10-21 05:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me when i tell you this! i have been where you are and i lost a marriage due to lack of trust.if you dont have a sound reason to doubt them,then give them the benefit of the doubt until you have sound proof.
2006-10-21 04:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Frustrated & concerned 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs SOMEthing to do on, other than just a feeling.
he doesn't need solid evidence (like finding a hotel bill) but something like...changed behavior, that kind of thing.
2006-10-21 04:31:23 · answer #5 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him,You think its in he,s head,not True!And let him know your concerned for him as a friend!Honesty always works!Hollywood
2006-10-21 06:54:17 · answer #6 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋