About 2 years ago I had short fling with a woman who was a veeery long time in a relationship and was cheated by her partner. It ended that they got back together and I was really hurt.
Now they split up and she starts coming on to me again. To be honest there are still feelings, but beeing dumped once, resulted in a lack of trust. What should I do?
2006-10-20 20:52:01 · 21 answers · asked by Starlight 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
hi starlight. im a lesbian and i can tell you my lesbian relationship has caused me more stress and heartache than anything ive ever experienced with a man. please dont go there hun she will hurt you again and you will be pressing the self destruct button. but its up to you, i dont know her so i cant tell you why she did what she did but if you make the choice to make another go of it then good luck x
2006-10-20 20:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
be very careful
as you are the back up
if her ex comes back she will go back
and leave you where you where before
most of the time if two people have gone out more than once theey will be together again
you need to tell your fling
what you think and make sure she knows
where you and her stand
but if you want a sexual relationship you control it
and make sure you don't get hurt again
2006-10-21 06:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Zara3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be the rebound person. I think you should try to have a platonic relationship with her. On the other hand, if this is what you want then sit down have a heart to heart, be sure to make known your feelings as well. Good luck with that.
2006-10-21 03:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by OE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay clear. You'll only get burnt again. Unless she can really convince you that she wants you for you. Because, by the sounds of it, she is scared of being alone, and you are an easy target. She'll ditch you as soon as someone better comes along.
2006-10-21 12:58:46 · answer #4 · answered by helen g 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with no trust, there is no quality basis for the relationship. i've seen many couples who don't trust eachother... it always ends badly.
sometimes they can regain the trust, but that is based on whether or not the partner hurt is willing to give them that chance.
personally, i would never give them a second chance - hurt me once, shame on you; hurt me twice, shame on me. when we first started dating i told my husband if he ever did anything where i couldn't trust him, it was over. no ifs ands or buts about it.
it's odd - he has a peer who's wife doesn't trust him because he cheated on her once so their relationship is now based on control - she tries to control him and he sees what he can get away with without her knowledge - so not good.
2006-10-21 06:01:56 · answer #5 · answered by Jenessa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if I were you I should not react at her advances. She made a choise in the past and you were hurt, you can't be sure she never will do this again. Oke, you have feelings for her, but if I understand you properly, they aren't that strong anymore.
2006-10-21 05:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away, If it was meant to be you would have been together in the first place!! She's obviously doesn't want to be on her own!! In my opinion shes on the rebound!! Don't go there!!
2006-10-21 04:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u have to show her that u'r not something out in the air for her to come to any time she wants..
i mean.. if she has done it once she will do it again.. u cant let her do that to you...
besides.. dont let love be the reason to ur hurt...
2006-10-21 09:38:29 · answer #8 · answered by heba! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's probably on the rebound again. That's totally up to you.
2006-10-21 20:22:48 · answer #9 · answered by Necole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm worried that she's just using you. Settle for friendship until you feel secure again
2006-10-21 03:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by trebs 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋