and i gave her a small can of mace. she's really artsy and the boy bully has destroyed her art work. he's also shoved her to the ground and she got up and started to yell things to him. (he's black, single parent home, from ghetto side of town, really ignorant) then she tells the VP and the VP gives both of them detention even though the black kid started it first and has picked on her in the past. they're in middle school. should she transfer?
2006-10-20 20:04:33 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
also he harasses her everyday and i think i've had enough of her coming home crying
2006-10-20 20:05:38 · update #1
his parents don't discipline him at all
2006-10-20 20:05:55 · update #2
the boys parents refuse to talk with us. she is too busy doing her own thing to worry about her child's actions!!
2006-10-20 20:13:08 · update #3
when she told one of her teachers about it, they just brushed her off like it didn't matter!! i was so apalled! he is harassing her!!
2006-10-20 20:17:50 · update #4
well i go to the gun range every week. i am not afraid of those hoodlums using guns because i am capable of operating on too. we live in the nice side of town, but those kids keep getting sent to her school because they get kicked out of their school zone
2006-10-20 20:21:00 · update #5
Are the teachers blind? Surely there are other kids who see what goes on get them to talk to the teachers so they know what the problem is.
OR,
she needs to get a group of kids who see what goes on to surround him and threaten to pound the dogcrap out of him. It takes a group to scare a bully she can't do it on her own. They might have to actually pound him and risk detention bullies don't like to give up their power but they do understand numbers.
Good luck
2006-10-20 20:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, really, this sounds almost like she is going to school in a kid from the hood. This is not the usual, and this kind of situation you just don't know where it is going. You could say to her, ok, you are going to go over there and give him a taste of his own medicine, and then he goes home and picks up a gun, and comes to school and shoots her. I would just pack her up and get her out of there. These days, it is just too dangerous for some picking a fight. Yes, I agree, she does have to learn how to take up for herself, but on her own turf. Children do mean things, and when you have the combination of parents who don't care, and may have drugs and guns, who knows, it is not the same. I personally would not chance it and also when the VP is apparently not that concerned either. Get her out.
2006-10-20 20:17:21 · answer #2 · answered by shardf 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, I don't know if it's a Texan thing, but I think mace is illegal here, maybe from where you are, too. Pepperspray or mace, one or the other, isn't illegal. I'm sorry if that doesn't help, but check on that first, but I would hate for her to get caught with it and it end up being illegal, she could get suspended!
But! If he gets to a point where there is no resolution, look into putting in either a restraining order, or go directly to the School Board of Education, Principal, maybe even a teacher she has confidence in (maybe her art teacher?) and ask that they have a meeting with you, the parents, your sister, and whomever is the boys caretaker.
It is better to deal with the problem than runaway from it. It owuld be sad for him to continue his behavior just to pick on another bright student like your sis.
Hope this helps!
2006-10-20 20:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by la mujer 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The Principal needs to be informed and your parents need to demand that he do something about this. Sometimes teachers and administrators will ignore this kind of behavior and assume it's just "normal kid stuff". Even if it were, no child should have to put up with being bullied.
Your parents can't be wishy-washy if they want this problem to be solved. They need to show that they won't stand for their daughter to be treated like this anymore. If necessary they need to call the law or a lawyer.
Of course, if they can get action with diplomacy and being friendly that would be the best solution, but sometimes that just does not get results.
2006-10-20 20:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds as if an adult needs to intervene at this point and have a discussion with the school authorities, since she already stood up to him and it didn't help. (Present the destroyed art work to them if you still have it - some of these school people have to see "proof" before they'll do anything.) I know that the school district my kids are in advertise that they have a "zero tolerance" policy towards bullying (that's what they SAY, anyway). Many kids hesitate to get adults involved because they're fearful it will just escalate the bullying; however, since she HAS tried to resolve it and he still bullies her, I would definitely get involved.
2006-10-20 20:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by voycinwilderness 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is what I would do.
Go to her school with your gun unconcealed(unless you have a concealed carry permit) ask him to stop messing with your sister. If he causes conflict and tries to hurt you or your sister just hold him and gunpoint(your gun against his head while Hes on the ground) have your sis call the police and hen they get there tell them that you were defending yourself from harm. And say he was assaulting and harassing your sister. Assault and battery can be charged if he even TOUCHED you when you said don't touch you.
2015-10-11 04:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I had kids and if they were being bullied I would want to go to the school and yell at the bullies if I didn't get in trouble
2014-12-13 07:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to keep her from getting in big trouble I'd suggest not using the mace because it's considered a weapon. A hard kick to the nuts would probably be just as effective if not more effective then a can of mace. She may get in trouble, but guys are more likely not to bother a girl once she kicks them in the nuts. Protecting our prize jewls is the main priority for us.
2006-10-20 20:09:37 · answer #8 · answered by Josh Colgen 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt give her the mace, although i understand what you are doing to protect her, she can get in trouble for having that (which is considered a weapon) at school, and if God forbid it got in the wrong kids hands and was used against her.
I would have your parents call a meetign at the school with that buleys parents and have soemthing resolved that way. Im sorry she has to go thru that.
2006-10-20 20:09:05 · answer #9 · answered by JoAnne H 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to the VP's boss or the superintendant of the disterict. Tell them you hope this issue can be resolved without you having to get lawyers involved.
2006-10-20 22:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by minuteblue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋