I need some suggestions on how to juggle 3 kids, a live in Fiance, a job, housework, and time for myself without me being as tired as I am and without the housework slipping.... anybody have any hints or suggestions they would be greatly appreciated! Thanks!
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2006-10-20 20:04:30 · 16 answers · asked by sexymama2420052000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To add some stuff that people have asked... My fiance is very supportive and does as much as he can with the housework. He takes care of the kids from the time I leave for work until he does which is like 4 hours. He also gets up with them so I can sleep every once in awhile.. its just still hard to juggle it all!
2006-10-20 20:24:36 · update #1
just keep struggling along. It will seem suddendly they are all grown up and gone. In the mean time get your home very organized. Move stuff around even if it seems weird. I made one spare room a giant closet no one in the house had clothes or
shoes or laundry in their bedroom. Nothing in the bathroom/
each kid had a bucket of their own supplies. Main livingroom/dining room could have no clutter. Kids room could me a total mess as long as there was no garbage and doors shut. Throw lots of stuff away. Store all dishes away and only have in the cabinets: one place-setting per person. Use a crockpot alot and have bread and salad. Water is the best thing for kids. don't waste time and money giving them liquids that have no healthful purpose. Make a lot of lists for everything so you do not have to back track. Put a TV in the kids room with no cable just movie dvd or vhs.... use for bed time and motivation.
For a sister of mine..I go over on Saturdays, haul of her and her kid's laundry to the laundry matt and do it while I read and study...I do it for free because I love her and that's one less thing she has to worry about. I take one of her kids with me and have them study too. Maybe you can do a favor for someone that doesn't take time and do a trade. Kiss those babies. You will have plenty of time to yourself later. My mom was right even when you are 50 you feel like you are 27. Be a mom now. It
will be over before you konw it.
2006-10-20 20:41:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I do it alone since I'm a single mom. If your fiance is supportive that helps tremendously. ideally he will carry half the load. If not, I'd be thinking seriously about the relationship. If it's one sided you won't find happiness down the road. I hope for you it's not one sided! I don't know the ages of the kids but they can help a lot too by doing chores around the house. Depending on your income, sometimes it's nice to hire someone to come in and clean for you once a week. That lifts a heavy load off you as well. Definitely get lots of sleep. It helps you make through those long hard days. Best wishes to you!
2006-10-21 03:11:31 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. Everybody, including the 3 kids have chores to do every day. The live in fiance does half your housework and the kids are assigned daily tasks according to their ages. Everyone will be happier and it will make for great family times and time for you to be alone and just read or do whatever you want to do.
2006-10-21 03:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Fiance if they would help you out sometime so you could maybe catch a nap or get your nails done, or just go out. If your Fiance couldn't help, how about his parents? Do you have any friends that could help you out too? Tell them you'll trade with them and watch their kids when they need time to get away from it all too. You can also involve your kids in helping with housework. The smallest child can help. And then have a treasure box with some goodie or toy for them to get. They will love to help you then.
2006-10-21 03:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the Fiance and kids to help with the housework or go on strike. That'll make them get a move on. Designate certain days of the week for things to do (laundry on Saturday or whatever) so you're not overwhelming yourself. INSIST on getting at least an hour a day for time to yourself. All you have to do is put your foot down. You can't do it all yourself.
2006-10-21 03:14:10 · answer #5 · answered by infernal_seamonkey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be glad that you have someone that helps you i had 8 children and their father never wanted to help with anything i know that it is hard now and sometimes there seems to be no relief but hang in there i admire you for being a good mom and having a job there are alot of people that could learn from your example just keep trying to do your best God will never give you more than you can handle even though it feels that way sometimes savor the quiet times you get and cherish all the memories some day your children will be grown and you can hold your head high and be proud of what you have accomplished good job have a good day
2006-10-21 14:31:17 · answer #6 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your kids, they could help out with the housework, the little things like dusting vaccuming so forth. Make a schedule. There is nothing wrong with them helping you out even if they are as young as 2 or 3, that gives them the feeling of being big and helping mom...that's if you have the patience for that...LOL...it's tough.
2006-10-21 03:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by Tinabobsue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on the age of the kids get the kids and the fiance to help more around the house. My five year old loads the dishwasher and puts away his own clothes. Also if you like your house spotless, as I once did, it may help if you loosen up your standards as once you have kids there is no way to keep a spotless house without overworking yourself. And time by yourself to relax is more important than that pile of laundry.
2006-10-21 03:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rosters?
everyone has chores and a timetable. it doesn't have to be every day, if policing it is too demanding.
perhaps mainly saturday and sunday, and they all help.
sunday evening could be family time, folding clothes, ironing, tidying rooms ready for the new week.
is there any hope of passing the kids to someone else (family or friend) occasionally?
2006-10-21 03:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find yourself a man with lots of money to buy help like au pairs and cleaners. AND stop having kids.
2006-10-21 03:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by tanlonghair 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋