2006-10-20 19:59:09 · 11 answers · asked by olin1963 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There was a time when I used to. There was also a time when it simply fed my ego and boosted my self-esteem.
There was also a time when I held the opinion that "smart" was entirely different than "intelligent". While I believed myself to be intelligent I did not necessarily believe myself to be smart according to my own definition of the word. I believe that most will understand what I am attempting to convey here.
Now I am fully aware of the common definition of the word and it's implications.
I graduated highschool at the age of 16 and was expected to attend an Ivy League college at some point. I was shouldered with the responsibility of tutoring six younger siblings. I was expected to resolve conflicts and solve problems which were trivial at best but required a dutiful effort on my part to somehow fix.
It occurred to me one day that perhaps being intelligent/smart wasn't the blessing one would think it would be. Instead, it was a burden and a curse.
My expectations and responsibilities were greater than what they would otherwise have been and it did nothing more than complicate matters.
I was given little opportunity to pursue my own interests as I was expected to assist with the problems of others.
Ultimately, there was no reward in it- I found myself consumed with other people's problems at expense of my own interests, duties, responsibilities and obligations.
I eventually discovered that in the process I was neglecting matters of importance in my own life.
It became appallingly clear that it was in my best interests to feign ignorance.
Less responsibility+lowered expectations= happier me.
I was, as a result, able to focus my attention on what I perceived to be a higher priority than the mundane trivialities of others.
It is far more productive and satisfying than parading around like a circus act.
2006-10-20 20:54:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I sometimes feel uncomfortable especially when I am singled out as "special". As a child and now as a teen I am told I am smart a lot and tested etc. I feel uncomfortable because I feel that it puts pressure on me to perform at a certain level and people expect things of me. I feel even worse when I do badly because I'm smart so I should do well and now I'm just lazy. Also, I dont have very high self-esteem so when people say I'm smart sometimes I feel annoyed or even think their just "saying that". I also dont like to be singled out because then my peers resent it. People saying "youre smart" makes me feel like they wont feel as comfortable around me because maybe they think that I wouldnt want to hang out with them if I was so smart or something. I don't know I'm getting all confused but...
Nothing wrong with a good compliment most of the time, go ahead, admit it, I'm just genius lol.
2006-10-20 20:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by Cassandra 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 12:41:31 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all know how smart or how dumb we are. Sometimes, I will be in the mood for some intellectual convo, sometimes I talk about shoes. But its when youre analyzed by someone who is listening to your smart moments, and comments "Youre smart" that makes you think back to the shoes convo. I have been called smart simply because I know what 'Carpe Diem' means. But there are plenty things I know nothing about, and that makes me uncomfortable. What if this person who thinks Im smart, will challenge my intellegence with something I know nothing about? OH! And if you accepted the compliment, you are agreeing to the notion. Thats my experience.
2006-10-20 20:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by Brown Beauty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, as for the why, I would say humility except calling yourself humble isn't humble so...I am proud of myself, but I don't want others to feel I believe I'm smarter than them or for them to view me that way. I believe everyone has a gift and is exceptionally smart in one or two fields but not in everything so why pretend to be a know it all or be happy when someone tells you you are smart.
2006-10-20 20:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes...I'm not super-smart (have to study lots to get the A's), but my husband is, and it's always made him feel uncomfortable. Most of it comes because when people know he's smart, they always go to him for the answers on things like tests and homework. He complains that they don't want help to learn themselves, they just want him to do all the work for them. In my case, like I said, I'm not super-smart but I do work in places that don't require a college degree (like the supermarket) and people have always commented on how fast I pick things up and how I don't have to be told repeatedly how to do things. It's embarrassing for me because there are those that it takes longer for them to catch on, but, like my husband, management will select me to do things instead of teaching them because they don't have to spend any 'time' on me.
2006-10-20 20:06:33 · answer #6 · answered by GJF 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For years I was in an abusive relationship and was told that I was stupid every day. Now I'm with someone who says I'm very smart and It kind of makes me feel wierd, but I like it.
2006-10-20 20:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by bettylou29691 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, because smart is such a broad term.
just because u r knowledgeable in some areas of life, doesn't mean ur smart.
2006-10-20 20:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by jesse james 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on the tone of the one saying it. It may be a sarcastic remark.
2006-10-20 20:03:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, i am smart, and i like being told too.
2006-10-20 20:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by tanlonghair 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋