My b-friend and i had a fight. I want to get married. He asked me why. What should I tell him? He thinks I am trying to change him. I'm not. I just want to be his wife/ I'm not an evil woman trying to get $$....What should I say??
2006-10-20 19:41:32 · 18 answers · asked by ohwhatshername 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him.
2006-10-20 19:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Asia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes women don't realize they try to change their man. Same goes for the men. Why does money come into it? Tell him why you want to be his wife. Believe me if you guys are trying to change each other now it wont be any better later. Talk to him and get into couples counseling before marriage. He could just be angry. His feelings are legitimate. Think about his feelings and how he feels as well. Change comes in learning about each other. Their dislikes ,their habits, their annoyances can all play a part in your relationship.. Make sure you are not rushing into things. Ask yourself why first off. Tell him why but don't rush the issue. Don't keep mentioning marriage all the time. Men like to ask. Do you just like the thought of being a wife or are you ready to be a couple. There is more than just marriage. I hope things work out well.
2006-10-21 02:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see if I understand this right. Your boyfriend is asking you why you want to get married? It sounds like you want to get married more than he does if he is asking you why. Not only that but what do you think you should tell him if he asks why...how about,,because I love you! And if you both are having fights over the topic of marriage, are you sure you want to marry him anyway? More importantly, are you sure your ready for marriage? And if you are, and he isn't, then it might be a good idea to find someone who is on the same page as yourself. Good Luck
2006-10-21 02:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that the correct response to "why do you want to get married?" would be .... Because I Love You!
You don't say how long you guys have been together ... if it's like 2 weeks then yep I think maybe you're rushing things .... but if it's a few years you deserve to know how committed you both are
Don't fight about it ... talk about it ... and find out why he doesn't want to
2006-10-21 02:46:33 · answer #4 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to get married because ultimately thats what our purpose is "to have a family oneday"
Do you want to get married with him..or just in general..
I think you should have a sit-down talk to him about what your goals in life are...if this is important for you, then it should be for him as well...
If he still asks why why why? maybe you just leave him alone for awhile, guys tend to take time to think things through before they know the answer..dont underestimate guys (they really do care-its just that we are better at those relationship things)
=> Be Happy!
2006-10-21 02:51:11 · answer #5 · answered by gela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two had a fight because you want to get married? Girl, what you need to be asking yourself is why do you want to marry him not what you should say to him.
2006-10-21 02:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by 00jag 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you told your boyfriend that you wanted to marry him and he replied with why?, I would dump his butt! If he loves you then it would be a joyous and exciting thing to discuss and look forward to. His reaction told you all that you need to know about what he thinks about you and your relationship. Stop giving him the milk honey... you can do a lot better than this jerk. Women let so man guys just get away with treating them like crap.
2006-10-21 03:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, do not talk about it, if he does not bring it up in 6 months dump him!!!
the more u push the more he will distant hisself.
Most guys want marriage to be "their idea".
so stay away from that topic and act like u just do not care to be tied down.
On second thought, if he has money he wants to keep it-marriage is a huge risk!
2006-10-21 02:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by guardianofdoves 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him WHY you want to get married. Obviously he doesn't WANT to get married. Stop trying to force him into something he doesn't want because if you continue you will wind up getting something you Do not want or he will marry you just to shut you up and you'll both be miserable.
2006-10-21 03:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Oh, Sounds like he doesn't want to get marry.he's comfortable the way the relationship is.specially if he ask you why you want to get marry.You can talk to him about your feeling sweety,but i don't think he will change is mind.i have seem alot of guys like this.they want to play house without that little piece of paper. really sorry.
Clowmy
2006-10-21 02:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should wait for his proposal now. what happened to the good old fashion way , where the man ask the woman for her hand in marriage? granted it is another day an age , but the man prob. feels pushed...
2006-10-21 02:47:35 · answer #11 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋