2006-10-20 19:37:34 · 18 answers · asked by cute 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it really does depend on the couple but a huge difference is the finality of marriage. Yes a huge percentage of marriages end in divorce but it is still human nature to view marraige as final. When you are together but no married there is still that subconscious thought that i things get bad then the other person might pick up and leave and if you don't want them to ever leave you tend to be nicer and more willing to compromise. So essentially there is still abit of eggshell walking then once you get married the idea that your actions may cause the other person to leave seems to fade away and your less likely to compromise and more willing to fight. People that stay together a long time but don't marry never reach the final stage and thus are always more willing to compromise.
2006-10-20 19:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by jnp3577 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably get plenty of colorful and elaborate answers about this, but the fact is the only thing different between a long term relationship and a marriage is a ring and piece of paper. Married couples tend to have more problems, if that's an accurate statement (?), more so than non-married couples because of the length of time. It's a safe assumption that most married couples have been together long than most unmarried couples which means they have more time to stop faking things, more time to get sick of one another, more time to lose the initial 'spark' that some people just can't seem to live without, more time to basically create problems.
2006-10-20 19:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
non married couples can get out anytime. Married couples who value and respect marraige do not. You notice things you never really noticed when your married. The things you thought cute when you got together aren't quite so cute. Many things. On the whole I had more problems not married than married. The 2 year hump is usually the hardest. Sometimes the issues you didn't resolve come back. It's all in how you look at it.
2006-10-20 19:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says they have more issues? I bet the non married couples deal with the same issues as married ones.
2006-10-20 19:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they live in close proximity in each other's space. They constantly see little habits they might not have been aware of before they were married. Because they now share everything they own, including bills. Because they are now expected to be part of their spouse's extended family as well as their own. Because when children come into the picture, all kinds of new issues arise.....like more financial pressures, different child-rearing practices. Because the longer you are married, the more you have to depend on other aspects of married life besides the initial attraction of passion and sex to keep you content.
2006-10-21 04:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by picassoesque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says they do???
But one theory is that married couples have a little piece of paper that says (in effect) "I'll put up with all the crap you want to throw at me but won't leave you and I'll still love and cherish you forever" ...it goes for both Bride and Groom
Single couples have no little piece of paper that says this ... so they have to work a little harder at keeping things "rosey" so one person just doesn't walk off with most of the others stuff
2006-10-20 19:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that they do, but if unmarried couples have less issues it is only because they are not in it for the long haul and they know they can bail out at any moment. If you are not married you have not risked anything, your mind, heart, body, and soul are yours alone...
2006-10-20 20:21:06 · answer #7 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think married couples have more issues, they just become more important after marriage.
2006-10-20 19:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by babyj248 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am married an we have less trouble or issues than we did. but maybe some of what we were going through was stress related over bills and such as many other couples.
2006-10-20 19:44:14 · answer #9 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we have MORE issues we just have a more vested interest in the outcome of our issues. If you guys cheat on each other & fight & leave that's it for you. If we cheat & fight & leave each other we have to deal with who gets the house, who gets custody of the children, child support, dividing of assets. We lose half of our "family" (in-laws). There's more responsiblity and more accountability in a marriage than in a bf/gf situation.
2006-10-20 19:55:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋