i was raped and im pregnate shoould i tell my parents?

Question

i was raped five months ago i found out im pregnate at three months i never told my parents i am not having an abortion should i tell them or not ? i am only sixteen years of age i want to have the baby but i dont want my parents to raise it either i want to raise it what should i do? The guy who raped me fled the country again what should i do

Answer 1

I don't think this is a real tough question .... of course you have to tell your parents ... you're going to need help and whether the rape charges can be substantiated or not is irrelevant ...if you want to have this baby then you'll need help ... your parents might "blow up" a bit to begin with but they're still your parents and will settle down after the initial shock .... I hope all goes well for you ... good luck

Answer 2

1st off ignore starrwoode's answer. Some people are just rude! You didn't ask to be raped and I am sure you KNOW that a baby isn't a toy. You should most def tell your parents. If they are any kind of good parents they will understand you didn't get pregnant on purpose. They will find out anyways. I wish you would have told the police so they could catch the bastard who did this to you. Another thing is don't let anyone tell you your life is over like starrwoode did (in so many words) Like I told her in an email, my sis wasn't raped but she had a baby at age 16. She didn't have to quit school. She stayed in school and got a job and supported herself and the baby til she was able to move out on her own. Yea it was hard but she did it. I give you Kudos for not wanting an abortion considering the circumstances. If worst comes to worst there is always adoption. You don't know how many people are out there who want kids but can't have them.
Best wishes to you
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Ps If you are lying you are only making it worse for the victims of rape and should be ashamed! I hope this isn't the case because if it is then what I have said above should be disregarded.

Answer 3

First, I know you said that this guy left the country, but most countries have extradition treaties with the US. That means that, just because he left the country, doesn't mean he can't be brought to justice. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE call the cops and put this guy behind bars!!!! Depending on the state you live in, you can still charge him with a crime from 2 to 10 years after the fact. (See Link below)
Second, I don't know what kind of parents you have or why you don't want them involved, but I can tell you from experience that once the baby is born you will want ALL of the help you can get. This is especially important in the first few months as it has been show to reduce the likelihood of postpartum depression.
Third, If you haven't already, call a Rape counselor, See links.
Good Luck

P.S. I noticed a lo of the above answered didn't get that while you were raped 5 months ago, you found out at 3 months (so she found out 2 months ago for those of you that didn't get it)

Answer 4

Tell your parents right away. Also talk to a counselor about your decision. Can you handle knowing that this child came to be as a result of a rape? Do you have means to raise the baby? Would you consider adoption if you could not raise it. You have a lot to think about. Hopefully your parents will be able to help you in some way.

Answer 5

Baby it does not sound like a rape case to me. Sorry if so straight forward. You said you were raped 5 MONTHS ago and you are 3 MONTHS pregnant. That does not add up. Go ahead and tell your parents you are sexually active and you are pregnant. It does not take 3 months to find out you are pregnant believe me I have 3. Talk with your parents. You stated the guy FLED THE COUNTRY AGAIN, what do you mean AGAIN!???Let's be honest with yourself and your parents. Good Luck

Answer 6

Yes you should tell your parents. They have every right to know and you cannot be blamed for being raped. However you should have told someone about the rape. You can't raise the baby by yourself at 16- you need an education first and foremost and you need support from those who love you. I do hope you don't quit school- that's what I did and it's the only regret I have in my life. Your mom and dad will probably be very sad at first but they will be very supportive in the end and you will need them. Good luck.

Answer 7

If you are living at home you need to tell your parents. They will know in a month anyways you can't have an abortion you are to far along in the pregnancy you need to also file a police report on this guy. Because this guy will do the same thing to some one else and do you want to know that you could have prevented that from happening to another girl. Most importantly WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL YOUR PARENT WHEN HE RAPED YOU OR WERE YOU DOING SOMETHING WITH OUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE.

Answer 8

Well let me give you a bit of advice and information.

One tell your parents. You are going to start showing soon and I promise you the baby won't stay inside until you are ready to tell your parents.

Two as a rape victim there are places that will help you. If you cannot afford your child there are open adoptions. People adopt your child but you are still sent pictures, updates, and in most cases allowed to visit with the child.

Talk to your parents, they will be able to help you more. MAJOR kudos to you for not having an abortion, especially since it was rape.

Answer 9

You have serious issues. Ask yourself WHY didn't you tell the police and your parents, if in fact you were rapped. And if you were then you have a duty to alert the police so they can get the rapping human trash off our streets. I think you should be honest with yourself and your parents and the police and show some maturity and face your situation as you know you cannot put it off any longer. Please consider seeking professional help soon. If your not mature enough to report your rape to police and parents then maybe your not mature enough to raise a child. Please there are to many children born to parents not mature enough to handle the responsibility and duty of raising a child. And the child is the one who suffers more than you know.Think about doing what is right. Pray to God for guidance.

Answer 10

Yes, hun, tell your parents!! I understand you want to raise the baby, but you are only 16 and you are going to need help. You can't handle all of this on your own, this is a huge responsibility. It may be scary to tell parents something like this, but in the end, they WILL find out, so you may as well tell them sooner and start seeking their guidance and support. You're going to need it!
God Bless and best of wishes to you and your baby!!