In other words everything thing I say; he think I'm disrespecting him. For example he was looking for the remote, he went through all my stuff and all I asked was " dad what are you looking for'? An honest question then he answered me as if he was angry that i asked him. I am so pissed off he is like this all the time. I sacrafice so much for him and this messed up family. What should I do? I'm sick of my family and thir manipulation and guilt trips they put on me. .
2006-10-20 19:07:59 · 9 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it happens to all of us. does he drink? because if hes like my mom then that could be the problem. there is really no way to deal with this that i know just try and talk to him on a serious note on a good day or in my case when shes sober
2006-10-20 19:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by Aaron m420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the sacred remote. We have one of those in this house too. I definitely wouldn't go through my daughters stuff looking for the remote control. It sounds like you are a teenager hang in there and while you are waiting if you have some spare money go out and buy a few universal remotes so he's never short of one. Just put them in the area where he watches tv and that way hopefully he won't think you're being a smart***. Our daughter spends a lot of time in her room to stay away from the living room when her dad is watching tv. It seems that a lot of dad's have the opinion, archaic as it is that they should be the king of their castle and all the dwellers in the castle should be respectful of that status. Help out as much as you can and see if it helps ease some of the tension in the house.
2006-10-20 19:21:05 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your dad how you feel and that you don't mean thing offensively when you talk to him. Let him know that it hurts your feelings when he acts so angry at him for little things. Let your parents know that you don't think it is very nice that they put guilt trips on you. It just pushes you further away and makes you feel bad about yourself. I had a sister that use to do that to me all the time. I eventually became numb to her guilt trips and stopped caring about them. Once I did that and showed her the guilt trips did not affect me anymore she stoped. because she did not get the responce she wanted. She also admitted to me it was wrong.Good luck..Just communicate your true feelings in a calm matter and stick to what you believe.
2006-10-20 19:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by lilsprina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be clear cut parameters - this is my space, that is your space, etc. Rules that can be used as a guide for who's is who's and so on. Otherwise it can be totally confusing. Outlining what are the expectations of EACH individual in the family can really help clear the air, and create a better more ordered space.
Good luck with your efforts.
2006-10-20 19:12:28 · answer #4 · answered by Buttercups 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents feel they need to be in control of everything you do. And especially fathers, they don't like to be proven wrong or make mistakes. They take that as disrespect.
It is just as difficult being a parent as it is being a child. Understand that your parents love you no matter what, even if they don't always show it or say it. Especailly fathers.
2006-10-20 19:13:54 · answer #5 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Familys can suck. Don't blame yourself. Grow up, move out, look forward.
2006-10-20 19:11:45 · answer #6 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 things be a smart @ss or dont talk at all
2006-10-20 19:17:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy just STFU!!
2006-10-20 19:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by Shenlong The God Dragon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say anything.
2006-10-20 19:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋