My bf and i wanna get married and he keeps saying that he could ask his parents and grandparents for some money. we aren't a poor couple, but i am from a single parent home so money is kinda tight on my end. he won't ask, is it a guy thing? does this question even make sense?
2006-10-20 18:26:36 · 11 answers · asked by Starry Eyes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It doesn't make total sense. He made the suggestion and won't take his own advice? Let your celebration match your budget, it can be done.
2006-10-20 18:29:53 · answer #1 · answered by devilUknow 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, the question doesn't really make that much sense. Are you worried about being able to help out with the money needed to get married? I would talk to your husband to be about it. Figure out a budget and figure out what exactly you want to happen. Put your expectations for each other on the table. It sounds like you have a lot you need to talk to your husband about.
As someone who recently got married myself, my wife and I agreed to never keep score. Her parents paid for the vast majority of our wedding, but I put in quite a bit of money myself. She was still a poor college student. I don't care though. It all worked out and it was a great day. However it works out, I hope you have a great wedding!
2006-10-21 01:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you should really be supporting yourselves.
If it is specifically for marriage, which it sounds like here, that is a different story.
You and he had better be clear on what kind of wedding you want. If sounds like he might be willing to go cheaper then you if it means he doesn't have to humble himself to ask. Make sure he knows what you want and he will likely be more willing to ask.
Be wary also about something. Could this just be a stalling tactic on his part. Talk about the wedding ceremony and reception until the cows come home... and we never have to get married!
Good Luck!
2006-10-21 01:40:10 · answer #3 · answered by David M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are old enough to get married then the two of you could pay for your own wedding.Don't make a single parent go in debt for your day.That person could help with the planning and do small things that don't cost a lot of money.You are going to be sharing your life together so plan your wedding together.And it's alright for the groom's parents to help too.Good luck to both of you as you go through life.
2006-10-21 01:43:44 · answer #4 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand it is 2006 .. On the other we have generations of culture behind us.
It is more of a cultural thing... many are raised that the parents of the bride pay for the wedding .. sorta like a dowry.
So it does make sense .. and he has his reasons for feeling strange about it. Be nice, and try and talk about it. It might not be possible.
Try and keep the wedding nice .. and inexpensive.
As the couple ages .. the less the parents of either feel that they should kick in anything for the wedding. alas. grr. oh well
2006-10-21 01:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why should someone else pay for your mistakes. You want to marry then the responsibility should begin before you say I do.
It does not cost very much to get married.
It is the divorce that will take all your money.
2006-10-21 01:58:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess as a grown adult, you do not want to ask your parents for money. It is a thing of responsibility. If they offer the money, then I guess I would take it or part of it if I really needed it. But asking them for it would show that I cannot save money and still depend on them, which I would not want them to think.
2006-10-21 01:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Te 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yes ita a guy thing and he was raised the right way dont dump it on some body else he fels as thou hes the man and wears the panths and is willing to work it out with you as far as finding your own ways if you want to get hitchedd and do it the right way he dosent want too hurt your feelings and is tring desperately to make a good home for you and provide the best, its no put downe as far you are concerned, but hes only trying we imagine too do as far as he was raisedd-- pay his own way and provide for you we admire him so much hang on too this one, hes far and few in betweeen.
2006-10-21 01:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finances are one of the leading causes of divorce.Right after adultery.Money should have no effect on true love. Good luck
2006-10-21 02:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married until you have money and can support yourself! Otherwise, you'll never make it. Is it really really really that important that you get married now?
2006-10-21 01:29:47 · answer #10 · answered by lesliehope24 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋