My boyfriend watches porn everyday behind my back...I find it disgusting and very disrespectful with me and our relationship, I don't understand why he does it , we have sex pretty much every day and it's GREAT!!
It makes me very sad because I love him with all my heart, and i've been trying to get over it and let him be happy...but his happiness hurt me too much. I don't know what to do. I already talked to him and he knows I don't like it, but he still does it...
(I'm 29 and he's 32)
2006-10-20 18:26:23 · 12 answers · asked by none 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You say the sex is great (and I believe you :) ) ... maybe ...just maybe ... he's looking for something to spice things up a touch? ... How long have you guys been together and do you role play, experiment or try different things every now and then??? This might be what he is looking for ..... but everyday and behind your back knowing how you feel.... that to me doesn't sound as if he resepcts you as much as he should ... you need to talk more about it with him and try and find out why he does it ... I hope you get it sorted
2006-10-20 18:29:51 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say men with sex on the brain all the time have lower IQ's, but here's a thought...
Perhaps the sex is so good because he watches and learns. Some guys are very ignorant when it comes to sex and some simply have no creative imagination. These men sometimes turn to porn to learn, so they won't have to admit they are lacking in some departments.
Then there's the possibility he has a psychological problem.
Whatever the reason, if you aren't comfortable with it, you need to seek counseling for yourself and then make the decision to stay or go. If you can't learn to live with it unconditionally, and he's unwilling to give it up, your relationship is doomed. Get out while there isn't another person to be hurt by the split (like children.)
Don't waste your time on a no win relationship - remember, we only live on this earth for around 80 years so, live it without wasting it and causing regrets!
2006-10-21 01:54:46 · answer #2 · answered by Shadow Dancer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, you need to find out why you feel sex is disgusting. All straight men like looking at nude women it's in our genes. Now if your boyfriend is watching unnatural sex acts like with animals or children then yes you have something to worry about. However, if it's sex between adult men and women why worry as long as he come to you when he want to have sex. Try watching some with him to find out why he enjoys it so much. *Face the fact: If you keep harping on things he takes pleasure in, you are going to lose him. And the next person you are with may do something else you don't like.
2006-10-21 01:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then the porn must mean more to him than you. Every day is way to much, I'd say. Maybe he has an obsession, or an addiction, l ike drinking and gambling. I wouldn't marry the guy. I 'd find a new one. Real fast.
2006-10-21 01:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by mabell1025 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, don't let it get to you. My husband of 35 years has always watched porn. Not that i like it, but it is a man thing that most men, even though they won't admit it, do. You shouldn't take it personally, I always felt that i wasn't meeting my husbands expectations, but i keep telling myself at least he is just watching and not going out and doing. and I tell him he can look , just don't touch. No matter what you do or say, it won't keep him from doing it. so just get used to it like i have. He's not hurting anyone.
2006-10-21 01:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u tried watching it with him? Maybe u 2 should find flicks that u both can enjoy. He's not cheating on u and his watching porn does not mean he not happy with ur sexual relationship... Try watchin as a couple...
2006-10-21 01:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Paige R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is kinda embarrissing to admit but lots of guys actually watch porn to learn new stuff. (mabey thats a good thing) If he was doing it before ya'll started dateing then chances are you wont be able to change that. Give him time and keep pushing and keep reminding him how it makes you feel, thats whats important
2006-10-21 01:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by lefty_miller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is the thing, you either dump him, take away all his porn movies, or watch porn behind his back too.
maybe he is with you because of the s*x, you said you do it every day. deprive him of it for a while and see if he is going to stay.
good luck
2006-10-21 01:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Desert Rat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some idea what new he can do with you. Maybe when he makes love see somebody else. I don't know how to stop this behavior.
2006-10-21 01:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal most guys do that ...it doesn't mean that he doesn't respect u or something ...its just men are like that they never get enough ...be cool about it
2006-10-21 01:29:18 · answer #10 · answered by black cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋