My situation is this.......I was stupid. I met a woman at work who was separated. She was dating a drug dealer/user. I became friends with her and eventually we started dating. She got pregnant and then had an abortion which I begged her not to. We later got engaged and she wanted to get pregnant again. We did and had a daughter. She constantly complained that we did not have the money to do what she wanted and was not happy. Two times she left me and took our daughter and kept her from me, but we would reconcile. We even started custody hearings, but then reconciled and married. Recently she has again stated she wants to be single and filed for divorce. She has two sons from a prior marriage in which she gave their father joint custody with week on/week off visitations. I requested the same and she has refused offerring only standard visitation to me. Our daughter is 14 months old and with the few weeks she kept her from me I have always been in her life. What can I do now?
2006-10-20 18:09:39 · 3 answers · asked by James C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can do alot. I hate to say this because I don't know what type of feelings you still have for this woman, but she appears to be quite unstable. The whole on again, off again has raised an eyebrow. I'm a social worker. When custody hearings begin, I'd be one of the people you have to be evaluated by. To give you inside information, I would strongly adivse you to file your own petition for placement immediately. It shows the court your desire to have the child. This will even the playing field a little bit. I know it will drag things out, but in all honesty, that is what you want. During this time, the court makes a temporary order. Most of the time, unless there are circumstances that prevent it, the child will be split up evenly. The longer this situation remains this way, the longer your daughter has had a chance to adapt to this way of life and the less likely it is that a court will alter her lifestyle when it comes to the final ruling. The good thing, is that you daughter is young and you are a constant in her life. Courts like to see that. They also love to hear that you are doing everything "in the best interest of your daughter". Hope it helps!
2006-10-20 18:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to be up front and seek advice from him. If he's the daddy of the baby then permit him be. If he isn't on the place of work work in at present's courts a DNA attempt will provide that to him and his rights as a father. the mummy nevertheless gets the baby in case you might have the money for to look after the baby without help from the state. After that factor that's a combat for who's superb. Springtown TX
2016-11-24 20:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an Attorney and go for Joint custody, also seek where she can not take the child out of state to live else where. You can demand any child support being given, receipts must be provided monthly how she is indeed using this money for the child and only the child. She is to return to work because you will not be supporting her.
2006-10-20 18:18:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋