all the sudden it's awkward and uncomfortable to be around my friends. they hardly call to chill anymore.
i think it's because they know some stuff i've done recently and it's not good stuff. and i know they know. but how can i fix them. when it's sooo uncomfortable to talk to them anymore.
2006-10-20 17:46:25 · 15 answers · asked by bunty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
how can i fix this(*)
2006-10-20 17:46:55 · update #1
well i just got involved in alcohol and smoking, with a group of people i hung out with once.
2006-10-20 17:49:36 · update #2
WOW. That's a pretty stressful situation to be in. The absolute only way to "fix" this is to confront your friends. It will be extremely uncomfortable for you at first, and depending on what you did (I mean was it something to them directly?) they may not accept what you have to say, but it will be no worse than it is now at any rate. So confront them, together in a group or one by one and own up to what you have done and then explain WHY you did what you did. That is important..they need to understand that. That is important to know in any relationship you have in life. Just saying.."I did this and that and sorry" doesn't cut it. Then promise to not do it again. If you value your friends (and you should), then you will do what you have to do.
I wish you the best of luck and I sincerely hope everything works out for you.
2006-10-20 17:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get it out in the open. Tell them, yeah I've done this not good stuff lately. I regret it - I've got to stop doing that.
Telling them about it is a sign of maturity (a man faces up to stuff like that, where a boy would hide). They'll respect you for being honest and confronting it head on.
2006-10-21 00:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by Black Parade Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call them up one by one and tell them you have had some trouble lately, but you're not into it anymore and you miss hanging out with your best friends. Tell them you'll play it straight with them and just want to be included in the group again.
2006-10-21 00:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on what you did, was it really bad? Do your friends think differently of you because of it? Do your friends think you will do the same to them? I say try to tell them you made some mistakes and they you are still the same person trying to get through some things, if they do not respond, that doens't seem like a friend to me.
2006-10-21 00:51:52 · answer #4 · answered by kyotegrey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own life straightened out (stop doing the "not good stuff"). Be honest about what you have done and take responsibility for it. If your friends don't forgive you, they aren't real friends - find some new ones.
2006-10-21 00:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Cherry Blossom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if its something u did TO them apologize and talk about it and if it's just bad stuff in general ask them if thats y they r being different. if it's something thats just stupid then they aren't really ur friends and they were looking 4 an excuse 2 stop hanging out with you.
2006-10-21 00:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what did you do? I'm wondering I have to know to understand the seriousness of it or if they will even talk to you again....I don't know but, if anything if they are your friends then they will forgive you I'm sure you just got to let it lay low for awhile....Don't keep looking desperate to talk to them just let it blow over they will come back around...good luck
2006-10-21 00:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by MiZaLiTy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sto doing the bad stuff. Then talk to them tell them you are sorry. Its a hard word for men to use but try sometimes it helps.
2006-10-21 00:49:53 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must've done some bad things for them to dis you like that, and if you know that why expect them to talk to you at all. mayb they dont want you to fix it. just move on and make better judgements in the future.
2006-10-21 00:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing whatever it is that you've done (particularly if it's heroin, meth, or one of their girlfriends, dude). If that doesn't immediately work. Just keep hanging around them until they give up their grudges. I've noticed guys work like that.
2006-10-21 00:48:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋