i'm so so so scared its like i now what i was doing when i did it but now i'm in a bad mood how could i go out and do this to my self and that ain't the bed part see i tlod him that i was gonna have his baby and he was cool with it but now that i'm 6months he don't call i can't find him and my best friend told me she seen him with some other girl huging and kissing on her can some body tell me why do some ****** act like that why thay just can't take care of whats theres that makes me sick
2006-10-20 17:40:52 · 11 answers · asked by riley_smalley 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I want to start off by saying "GAMBERG" IS AN IDIOT!! (The first girl) Don't listen to that idiot!!! people like her need to be B i t c h slapped!!
You sound really young, and im sure if thats the fact, your "boyfriend" is too, the thing is with this that men or boys mature alot later in life, and he sees this as your sole responsibilty, he doesn't see this as his problem at all, your the one thats pregnant so why does he care, he might even go as far as saying its not his kid. If i were you and that happens i would go to his parents and tell then your situation, tell them you are willing to take a paternity test and that if they want that they have to pay for it.... If this is something you can't handle on your own, consider adoption, there are so many familys out there who can afford to take care of a baby... i am talking like this cause i have and AM in your situation i have a 6 year old son, and i am pregnant with another baby both from the same guy, i knew he was an asshole but still didn't take mature steps as an adult and a parent in prtecting myself... now i will be a single mother with two kids working ona single income.... i make good money but it's still hard being a 24 year old single mother.... Whatever you do don't drop out of school, continue with it, it will be a struggle im not saying it wont be, but it will all be worth it in the end.... If you need to talk you can email me.... I am willing to talk, listen and share because i know what it's like... Take care, and God bless!!
~CHEERS!!~
2006-10-20 17:50:46 · answer #1 · answered by Romy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know what you did and you are kicking yourself now because he is not there. It is hard, but many thousands of women have been there throughout the ages.
He is not the one carrying your baby, you are. He is not going to sit around because you cannot do everything you use to do. Why? Because he is not ready to commit.
Get on with your life, get over your feelings for him other than the fact that he is the father of your child and deal with him on that level only. The baby is going to need financial support so give him his freedom and take the money.
You are going to be a mother -- that is the bottom line. Your child needs you to be calm and in control so you can provide a loving home. Focus on that and forget about a relationship with this guy. If he were the real thing, he would be there with you.
Make a happy, loving home for you and your baby. And use protection next time.
It takes a while to get to know someone and sometimes you just don't know how they will behave when they find out they are going to have a baby. But you do not need this guy around just because he is the father -- especially if he does not want to be there -- that just leads to unhappiness and problems.
So tell him the due date, tell him you need financial support for the child. And have the number for the paternity test ready so he knows you are serious. When he says he is not the father, as long as you are certain he is, give him the number and tell him he can do this on his own or he can do it via a court order.
Do not be overly emotional and think about what you say -- do you really want this guy if he is not willing or ready to make a serious commitment?
2006-10-21 00:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi... first of all, if your best friend is telling you things like that, do you believe it automatically.. or give him the benefit of the doubt!
Secondly if you are six months pregnant, you won't have to tell anyone... it should be obvious by now! So, if you are definitely showing and he isn't around at all... then you will have to take other action besides talking to your friends... don't be hunting him down... he will come to you! Just be calm... your stress level isn't good for you or the baby either! If he doesn't show up sooner or later, then you can report him and draw child support after the baby is born... If he does show up and be a good man, a responisble father and take care of you both, then you had nothing to worry about! If he was out with another gal, then he is not worth your time! Let him go and just wave goodbye!!!
2006-10-21 00:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by MaggieO 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't beat yourself up too much. He was there too, and he led you full on, right? From now on, get married before you try to get pregnant. If he says he'll be a daddy b4 you're hitched, he may change his mind after you make him marry you first. Call that jerk up, to say "Guess what, honey. I'm carrying your baby!" If he doesn't answer the phone, look up his momma! SHE'LL straighten that boy up right quick, especially if she's on her own too. After Junior is born, have a paternity test ordered by the court, to make sure he takes care of that baby. And remember this child as the dearest gift any women could have, even if the man was no MAN.
2006-10-21 00:52:32 · answer #4 · answered by Angela M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
These are the consequences of having sex before marriage and before you are ready to deal with the results. Good luck on the baby. I wish you the best of luck and my advice is leave the guy alone and just love your baby with all your heart. You will love being this baby's mommy even without a loser like that in the picture. You can't even call him a dad if he can't step up. It takes more to be called daddy than sperm.
2006-10-21 00:46:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well girl i would confront him about it and see what all he has to say. then after you hear what all he says then tell him that you've been told by some people that they seen with another girl but make sure you dont tell him who told you. then if that would be me i would just get rid of his *** and move on with my life and with the baby. i've bben through the same thing like you and the reason some guys just leave a girls like that is because they are way to inmature and they just want some girls to get in bed and what happens happens. my ex bf did the same thing to me and i just got rid of him and told him to get out of my life and knew that he was cheating on me and now i'm happy with me and my baby girls and my new bf which he is now my husband. so girl whatever to do dont get yourself hurt in any way cuz you can't afford to lose the baby or anything like that so i would just tell him it's over and be done with it and also take him for child support after the baby is born cuz that is what i did with my ex and now he regreats what he did after i took him for that cuz i made him realize what he could of had but he didn't want that so it will be his lose not yours.
2006-10-21 02:19:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl t crazy like that it isod 2 them until rponseability comes on them then they move on with the nexcheck who either has ny is in the way or just doewsot care, but u keep ur heaup and show him that u are tbigr person because i2 ignore u even after the baby comes ihe will have 2 answer 2when he/she gets older if u do not oot planning on taking him bif he ask never close the don him when it comes 2 a relationship with the baby do he will say ur the reason he did not come around leave him to shoe baby how big of a fool he is himself
2006-10-21 00:50:34 · answer #7 · answered by katina c 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You already told him- why tell him again? And if he's kissing some other girl then he isn't your boyfriend. And if you can't find him he certainly isn't your boyfriend nor are you able to tell him anything. i think you're about to be a single mother- it takes a lot of growing up but it's possible to do.
2006-10-21 01:46:42 · answer #8 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you make sure that when you have your baby that you take that sorry SOB to court for child support. Dont feel sorry for your self you didnt make this baby yourself. You do what you have to do for you and your baby. Guys, there a more of them out there. But only one baby. yours. So keep your chin up and get him to help you.
2006-10-21 00:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you cant find him them say **** him here's how to tell him your pregnant---its called child support...he'll know he's got a baby then---good luck
2006-10-21 08:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by isydnor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋