I'm a 28 year old woman, my partner and i have been together
for ten years,but about one or two years ago things start to change
we don't spend time as we used to, don't have sex as often we only have two or three times a month and some times i don't know what to talk to him about, please help!!
I never been with anyone else so i am scare to finish a ralationship
and start all over again.
2006-10-20 17:28:45 · 16 answers · asked by Rosibel M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try counseling together before giving up. 10 years is worth it unless you're sure you're done and have no desire to work on it.
2006-10-20 17:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by DiRTy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let any sense of fear play a role in how you are going to live your life. It does not matter how many years you have been with a person, but it does matter if you ever had a "full" connection on a spiritual level. If so, there is a chance the relationship can be healed, but if not, you may miss out on something very good that will never happen with this man. Do some searching in your own heart for awhile and you will find the answer to this situation. Be strong, throw fear out. Sometimes it gets a little rough out there.
2006-10-21 00:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like 'The Perfect Marriage', if you were married, that is.
I take it you are not married, and there is no mention of kids, so you are physically free to leave if you so desire.
The reasons you mentioned above are all fixable between 2 committed people and I suggest you give it your best effort to see if this relationship can be salvaged, assuming you still love him, right?
Then if you do move on, there should be no regrets.
The next relationship you have may be exciting and all you want, but that wears off and sooner or later you will find yourself in the same situation. What will you do then?
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
If you love each other, give it another chance, if not move on.
Good luck.
2006-10-21 00:40:51 · answer #3 · answered by yolkyolk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes. It is just a part of life. Try thinking of why you married him in the first place. Marriage does require work and no one said it would be easy. It takes two. If you can't be honest with and trustful of your mate then you have problems. Open up and talk with him. What it comes down to is not "Can this work?" "Should I stay?" or anything like that. The real thing to ask yourself is "Do I want to make this work?" if so then make time for each other. Initiate sex and express all of your desires openly. Any relationship requires communication.(90%) and compromise to work.
2006-10-21 00:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships can be so mystifying at times..I too am having my own challenges.However,can you pinpoint anything that brought on the change in your relationship?Did you stop doing things together as a couple?Are there communication problems?My husband isn't a big talker and we went to counselling to help us to get along better.It shed a lot of light on things that we had both kept bottled up for a long time.Talking things out really helps.You were very young when you got together too and people change so much.Are you growing apart in general?Can you imagine life without your partner?It is a big step to end a relationship and it is worth doing all you can to save it before you give up.Anything worthwhile is never easy.Good luck!
2006-10-21 00:38:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rosie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you need to talk to him and tell him like it is. All your feelings, what you love and hate etc etc etc. Then forget about him for a sec. and think on your self. Do you still love hi? or are you with him just cause you are scared to start all over again? Then make a decision one thing I can tell you is that hell yeah it is scary but not impossible, look for support on your family and friends and take a step towards new beginnings and endeavors, you are only 28, girl all your life is ahead of you.
2006-10-21 00:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by wanna_help_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start dating him all over again. Put a little romance in your relationship. Spice it up!!! IF YOU WANT TO STAY.
If you're tired of the relationship then there is nothing you can do but weigh your options and either stay in the relationship and work on it, or get over your fear and get out. Only two choices. You always have to work on a relationship, always. Don't leave it up to the other person to work on it if you don't.
2006-10-21 00:34:58 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been with him a long time - would you stay if you felt closer? If you think you would then maybe you should consider counseling. You can learn to communicate better and might find yourself fall in love with him again. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Good luck to you!
2006-10-21 00:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by MissHazel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships go through normal ups and downs, this doesn't need to be over. Find a joint hobby or interest to persue together (cooking classes/dancing classes/join a gym/play tennis/go walking). Make some new friends and mix up your routine.
2006-10-21 00:47:28 · answer #9 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep u should, bring some changes in u n see if u both can sit togetther again dont break up it'll b the worse give things time and pay him attention make ure self look gud n enjoy dont be worried marriages arent just for to be ended up
2006-10-21 00:37:32 · answer #10 · answered by fan#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up with him will probably be the hardest thing you've ever done in your young life, but it's something you'd be wise to give serious consideration. You've got too much life ahead of you to continue in, what sounds like, a dead end relationship.
2006-10-21 00:54:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋