ladies, your input please!?

Question

My question is this:.. my girlfriend thinks i dont do enough around the house, i work a full time job, and when i say full time i mean over 120 hours every two weeks, when i get home im tired and dont want to clean. but she thinks i should, and i get a little mad because of this so we always end up in fights. she dosent have a job or anything, so thats why im asking this. when she was working i helped out around the house as much as i could...even now i still do laundry and cook a little.. am in the wrong here???

Answer 1

Sounds like your girlfriend has too much free time on her hands as it is. She needs to get a job and work just half the hours you are working and then maybe she will understand how you feel. No you are not wrong and you deserve to come home and relax.

Answer 2

I'm not a woman but hey, any input is better than no input. I think she is being horrendously unfair to you since she has no job at the moment. If she had a job then this would be a totally different story. But the truth of the matter is that you're out there busting your ***, meaning that you are putting in your share. Therefore, it is only fair for her to put in her share. This is not to say that you should do nothing at all when you go home b/c I do believe you can help out a LITTLE bit. If you get the chance do some things around the house but i do believe that the majority of the household chores should be her obligation given that you work a lot.

Answer 3

Lemme ask you this, Does she ever say "Hey Honey why don't you take a break and sit on the couch, I understand your tired." Thats ridiculous. Your girlfriend needs to calm down. You seem like you've got it all under control. You shouldn't even have to do the laundry or cook. She doesn't have a job she should. You derserve so much more. You pay the bills, there woud be no laundry with out your pay check, there would be no food on the tabe with out your pay check. And all she can do is cry about it. I'm sorry honey but you deserve someone that is going to appreciate all the stuff your doing for her.

GoodLuck Sweetie, sorry to be so blunt.

Answer 4

No, you are not in the wrong. However, there a few things to consider. I also do not have a job and my husband works full time. BUT, I do a lot of work for him and also go to school full time. So, when he starts saying things about the house not being clean, I have to defend myself because I have been just as busy as him. So, in your situation, be careful how you approach her and respond to her. For instance, I just think that it's the man's job to take the trash out. So, if there are small things she wants you to do, make sure you do them. And then, it will be her responsibility to do everything she is supposed to do (ie.washing clothes, dishes, vacuuming, etc.). Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Even if your girlfriend doesn't work,she doesn't want to feel like your maid either.Obviously you need to compromise.What else does your girlfriend do-surely not just lie around and paint her nails all day.Maybe work out a plan of sorts and divvy up the labour.Hire a maid and it will solve the problem for both of you.Maybe cut down on your work and have a more balanced life so it doesn't become an issue.Everyone just wants to be treated with respect afterall.

Answer 6

I work 8 hours a day, 6days/ 48 hours a week, my husband works 60-75 hours a week, and 6 days. we actually work together. but I prepare breakfast most of the time, cook dinner, clean the house, wash clothes, and take care of a puppy, which coomes to work with me every single day. but he does take the trash out and pays all of the bills, he services and washes my car, so I have a good relationship. but what she needs to do is everything inside that house since she is not working, I don't care what it is. take the trash out , laundry, dishes, cooking, dusting, everything, you shouldn't have to do nothing. she is selfish and ungrateful, I am not afraid to say it either, somebody needs to tell her a$$. let her read these comments on here.

Answer 7

Maybe you two should sit and talk about the part of work around the house. And you should tell her your problem. I think she will understand. But, you surely have to help sometimes. And don't forget to say thank you sometimes for the things that she did for you. And during a few days in a month (especially when she is in her period) try to help more.

Answer 8

you are working and paying the bills she is staying home i think the only thing you should have to do is the dirty stuff like taking out the trash and some yard work she has all day and night to clean. but if you have kids together then keeping a house clean is an all day and night job if you have kids maybe do alittle more but if theres no kids then most of its on her

Answer 9

My husband too works a lot of hours. I do however expect him to at least pick up after himself. I gladly do the house work and laundry plus raise our three kids. It is nice though when he does the dishes or something small on his days off. So as long as your not leaving dirty underwear on the living room floor and making her pick it up, I too think it is understandable that she should do the house work, since you do work and she does not.

Answer 10

At least clean up after yourself. For instance throw that chip bag away when you empty it, put your dirty dishes in the sink. Pick up your towel and dirty clothes off the bathroom floor. It is just simple things like that. I know where you're coming from. I've been on both sides of the argument. If you love her you will not let this come between you.