Well after being married for 7 years and having 4 kids I just don't know what to think. I think it's just ceriosity but it happens way too often in my opinion cuz it doesen't matter where I am or what I'm doing I get feeling really weird when I have the slightest thought of being with the same sex. please help me to understand myself!! any answer is better than mine (I just don't know!!)
2006-10-20 17:18:29 · 12 answers · asked by till.tomorrow 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A lesbian is someone who is only attracted to women. It's not just about sex, it's about love and commitment.
If you're not really interested in women, only to see what it's like to have sex with them, then I'd say you're just bi-curious. If, on the other hand, you find women as attractive as guys, and if you weren't with your husband could see yourself dating a female, then you're bi. If you're no longer interested in men at all and only want women, then you're a lesbian.
In any case, whether you act on your desires or not is irrelevant to your orientation. Having the feelings is what makes you gay, straight, curious, or whatever. Even if you try to deny them or hide them, it won't change who you are.
2006-10-20 18:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by goldenrose82 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are attracted to women, you are at the very least bi (since you are married with kids) or you are a lesbian and have just been suppressing it for a very long time. That is common among those in the coming out process. Try to ask yourself questions about your feelings, like when did you begin to feel these things for women. Think back, I mean I first recall staring at a woman when I was 5.
I hope you figure it out!!!! Good luck!!!
2006-10-20 17:24:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if your still married, you have to put the whole lesbian thing on the back burner and sort that out first. Seems to me if your thinking hard about cheating, the marriage is in trouble. Gay people can and do stay in straight relationships due to taking vows and obligations to children seriously. Your going to have a hard time de-tangling relationship troubles from orientation troubles, take 'em one at a time.
Your a lesbian when and if you decide you are, wether or not you have ever had sex with another woman. Straight people do think about it and sometimes experiment too. You can be straight, then be lesbian, then be straight again. Your body, your rules, your life. Its not about the sex, its about the woman.
2006-10-20 18:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by lilredridinghoodsgottagun 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably that you have been through a long relationship, and you are wondering what is out there. Chances are, you're looking for some understanding, and to do that, you also need to understand yourself. There is no hurry to rush to judgement about yourself, just give yourself time and reassure yourself that these feelings don't mean you're gonna start buzz cutting your hair and wearing leather underwear every day. You're just exploring yourself, and your desires, and my hope is that you do so with self-acceptance no matter what turns out to happen.
2006-10-20 17:23:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, analyze your feelings and your situation. How into women are you? Do you still want a long-term relationship with a man? Your husband? It's time to really think about who you're attracted to and what you should do about the married with kids situation.
2006-10-21 04:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if i quiet understand what your asking here! Are you trying to say you think you are being attracted to women now? Well a lesbian,only wants to be with women,has no desire to be with males in that way.So is that how you are feeling?
2006-10-20 17:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be asking the same question myself.. i am going through the same thoughts too and im a mother o f 3.. and i think of doing it with a tomboy. am i lesbian when i think of this tomboy as another real man?
2006-10-20 18:27:34 · answer #7 · answered by budi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not a lesbian because you sometimes think about it a lot of people do it because of curiosity but if you act on it then you are in my opinion
2006-10-20 17:49:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lesbian is thinking about doing it. the reason is because straight people NEVER think about do it. But hey, theres nothing wrong with a little girl on girl action. Guys think its hot and so do girl nowadays. I bet if you starting licking a girls puss you'll know right away if your into it. do it!
2006-10-20 17:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jbyrd 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
doing it because,just thinking about it doesnt mean your going to act on it
2006-10-20 17:24:19 · answer #10 · answered by Yuliza S 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋