she was raped at 11 and she used rto smoke pot and drink and when she moved here she stopped she was abused by her father and when she moves with her mom and step dad im afarid shes gonna start again? HELP PLEASE!
2006-10-20 17:12:16 · 11 answers · asked by my_emo_romance 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You can't do anything to change what she's going to do, you can't control her entire life. Just be her friend is the best you can do for her.
2006-10-20 17:15:36 · answer #1 · answered by almostdead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, a lot of people are made to suffer as children: beatings, rapes, torture, abandonment, neglect, parental divorce and subsequent remarriage with new or stepchildren to compete with, alcoholic or drug-addicted parent(s), erratic and even dangerous consequences of parental mental illness, browbeatings, parental insensitivity, psychological and emotional assaults, parental affairs, constant family turmoil, molestations, familial violence, single parent by choice or irresponsibility, and so forth.
Get her a copy of "Bad Childhood---Good Life: How to Blossom and Thrive in Spite of an Unhappy Childhood"
2006-10-20 17:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can not change the world although I appreciate your efforts. Remember that a person must help themselves before you can help them. I know you've thought out a million options in your head. Try sharing your ideas with your friend. Let her know that you care for her. Remember that it does help to pray regardless of what people say.
2006-10-20 17:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your parents or your school guidance counselor and be sure they know how concerned you are for your friend. If that doesn't work, see the school nurse, a school social worker - someone who can look out for her best interests. She is fortunate to have you as her friend. Good luck!
2006-10-20 17:16:00 · answer #4 · answered by amuse4you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a situation that is out of your control, unless there is something you can do about it that you didn't mention. Otherwise, just be there for her...that's all you can do.
2006-10-20 17:15:53 · answer #5 · answered by qamberq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she definatly needs some type of therapy to help her... You can be amazed at what a good therapist can do and help with.
2006-10-20 17:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call or get on-line to DrPhil.com, and/or get some professional help, but don't blame yourself if you can't help.
Good luck and God bless;
Jonnie
2006-10-20 17:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jonnie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ger a crisis hotlone number and ask fo rhelp
2006-10-20 17:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew Zajac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a good friend help her to help herself, you are hearing her small cries, and your right if she gets no help now it will get worse over time
2006-10-20 17:50:22 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so sweet to want to help. You can only be there for her if she wants to seek help. You can not do it for her.
2006-10-20 17:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by GiGi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋