Why do I feel that no one loves me and no one ever will?

Question

I'm 19 and have never had a girlfriend. I have never understood women, I'm one of those guys that has friends who are girls but no one that loves me. I recently was kicked out of my apartment by my 3 roommates and now live on my own i struggle to go on day by day it just seems that all of my friends have gone away since this happened and it was back in march when this happened and recently found out that one of my roomates slept with the girl that i had a crush on the most mest up part about this is that I had spent nights talking to my roommates about how much I liked this girl and they gave me advice about what i should do. I dont understand what I am doing wrong and why all of my friends are no longer choosing to be apart of my life. Im depressed and alone and dont think I will last much onger due to this depression

Answer 1

cause the world is full of superficial people who love a 'winner' and don't spend much time looking into the true essence of a person.

the saying "Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone" is true because people who are not close to you just want to use other people for their own fun. So if you go on a downward streak then, it's like quicksand and you keep sinking because other people don't perceive you as fun.

If you volunteer somewhere where people are down and out or depressed, this will help you for two reasons. It will take you out of the mind set of thinking about your own problems. And it will also put you in touch with people more likely to look at you in the totaility of who you are, not just for the sake of their own fun.

Answer 2

First things first, if you ever get to the point in which death seems better than life, go to a shrink. He'll do a hell of a lot better than I ever could.

I empathize with you, I've never had a true girlfriend, came close several times but never got past the final hurdle and yeah sometimes you have to watch over yourself more than the world does. But at the same time, you have to realize that you have no real control over your friends. You might bully them or coerce them into certain situations but they're only there because they want to be there. If they don't want to be there, they won't be there and you have to accept that. The world is big and uncaring and sometimes bleak, but you gotta keep moving forward because at least you know what is going to happen in life, however remotely (versus death the ultimate unknown).

Finally, you might be biologically different and may need the help of therapy to deal with the lack or serotonin in your brain. You aren't wrong or stupid or weak, just a little bit happy-challenged. With help and a good shrink you'll either get your friends back or you'll get friends who'll actually respect your opinions and desires and won't stab you in the ***.

Answer 3

recently i've found that i've lost touch with most my friends and have had moments of depression but i've found a way past that and you can too.
there are times in your life where you may be on your own, but its up to you to get back out there and start living again. pay attention to the beautiful things in life. listen to music that lifts your spirit. be more outgoing and meet new people.
maybe you need a change of scenery. even its just visiting a town nearby and having coffee in a coffee house. just get up and do something you haven't done in a long time or something you've never done before. and if you are worried about the depression definately see a doctor. good luck
i'm here if you need to talk.

Answer 4

You are doing nothing wrong.
You need to shift your focus from wanting to be loved and attention. Feel how it feels to lack...Painfull...huh? So why holding unto the want? More you want love and anything else, less you'll find, because you believe you don't have it, don't deserve it and all that stuff. That brings you to depression because deep inside you start believing that you are not good enough, or something is wrong with you.
Here is the KEY and this keep with you forever.
Feel the need or want to be loved or approved, feel the pain if any and do nothing but stop holding on it. Look at it and Feel how it dissolves and enjoy the freedom that comes with it.
A friend in heaven!
P.s. ANd yeah! Give yourself lots of approval! Love yourself first.

Answer 5

Kyle sweetie , Get a grip ! I know it seems bleak now but someone special might be right around the corner ,

Never give up until the Miracle happens !

I'm an older woman & if you just need to talk you can go through my 360 page . In the mean time stop being so hard on yourself .

Answer 6

Maybe because of your depression its why you are having troubles with your friends,if you feel this bad what you need is therapy.Im going to tell you just what you need to do... nobody is going to like you or love you until you learn to love your self.. you have to work on being less self conceous thinking no ones likes you.. so you didnt get the girl you wanted there are others is a matter of fact there is one who is right for you..and you will meet her everybody has a soulmate she is outthere,it seems to me you have to work on your personalaty before you can enter in to a relationship with a girl.You could ask your friends what is wrong with me?what am I doing wrong if they are good friends they will tell you... well this and that bother us and it can be fix..its not the end of the world.. for starters you have to work on the things you feel are your down faults.. spent sometime away from everybody before you confront them about what it is they think is wrong with you.. and when they tell you simply say well I had spent sometime alone trying to figure out what is going on and would like you guys to give me a second chance.. dont trow your self in a lake of pitty and crawl up in a corner go out there and change.. and you will see how many friends and girls you are going to have..you are so young that is why is easy to drown in a cup of water. good luck

Answer 7

i feel the same way to about if any one out there truly loves me im in a relationshio now but it just doesn't feel right to me i feel like were still only friends but maybe its just in our fate that we will me someone thats just right for us down the road and you said you dont understand women well most of us women dont understand you guys i think its just something that we have to work out amongst each other and discuss our differences also about being depressed dont do anything that you might regret because you cant take it back take it one step at a time thats what i do and i am also on depression pills which really help maybe you should consider it and about your friend who took the girl you liked if he was truely your friend he wouldn't have gotten in the middle he would have helped you get with her

Answer 8

You don't need a woman in your life, if you are in college this is your chance to start over. Be sucessful first, finish, keep your mind on work. I know what you mean, but if you are in college or whatever, change yourself, not by clothing or anything, but personality. Be more confident, be more outgoing, and most important be yourself. I do understand what it feels like to lose someone you really like or love, my bestest friend that was a guy, and you kinda sound like him a little, he was really short in high school, and guys made fun of him, and he was only really freinds with girls, but i really develped a crush on him and he moved away....but neither myself i have ever had a boyfriend, but i'm okay with it, they aren't everything.

Answer 9

Pick your head up, Start looking in other places, There are plenty of guys, and girls looking for friends. Get out there and check things out. Quit being alone and thinking about it. NOW MOVE IT!!

Answer 10

dont worr just ask some hot girls out as friends maybe they will think about it and love u. Maybe girls lke u but are scared to talk to you thinking that they might sat the wrong thing. Sometmes girls cant admit their true love