My very good friend has been very depressed. He has experianced a huge huge investment loss and is frustrated in his faliure. He always tells me how he never makes mistakes like this..He is a planner..He is frugal..even though he lives a life that is above the blue collar. He told me today that he does not believe in God anymore. That he is going to pull his kids out of church. He says that he is worth more dead than alive. He has said this to me and has repetitively over many months expressed his desire to end his life. I am so sad and so scared that he may do something, I want to go to his mom, however, the family does not know me. What can I do, if anything.
2006-10-20 17:01:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well hon i sincerely hope you get someone to assist you and i also think you should pray, but one thing i would ask him is how he thinks his kids would feel if he did it, he made the investment not God,did he ask God when he did it, i doubt it, and the bible says the love of money is the root of all evil, tell you friend he has his health and his family and a good friend like you who care, what more could he want, i know of this man in my country who is very rich, and his wife is dying of cancer, which would he prefer. anyhow all the best. I'll remember you and your friend in prayer
2006-10-20 17:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by diva anne 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
sounds a bit manipulative......
Are you the other woman? or is he divorced? What is the source of his investment loss? I think you should consider talking to a counselor yourself as well as ask him to go to one with you.
Take it very seriously but at the same time protect yourself and your interests too. His belief or lack of belief in God is really his business and his kids will, one day, be able to make their own choice about religion so do not fear this. It is imperative that you take care of yourself and your mental health so you can help him find the care he needs. If you get very scared you can always call the police and ask for a "Safety check" some departments are good about doing it some are not. Without knowing moreabout the situation it is hard to really give better advice than that.
And look up some of the people in life like Abraham Lincoln (failed in business 7 times each time going bankrupt and then lost a senate race twice (i believe) before being elected PRESIDENT!) and Dwight D. Eisenhower who also failed (although the specifics do not stand out in my mind as well!)
2006-10-20 17:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by ThinkingMan2006 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you talk to your friend and tell him that he needs help? That it's not ok to be feeling the way he is, and that he needs to talk to someone? Can you remind him that money isn't everything, and that he has his life, and kids and friends and family to live for...and all of those things are going to matter in the end, and not this? What about asking him how much this will mean in one or two years from now...
2006-10-20 17:03:55 · answer #3 · answered by Peach Tree 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to realise suicide is a coward's way to go - he will cause more harm than good if he leaves his family and friends behind. Once you reach the lowest point of your life, the only way to go is up!
2006-10-20 17:32:08 · answer #4 · answered by melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
huge,huge,investment loss? That would make anyone depressed...talk to him and mention he should speak to someone and get it all out , and get some meds.there are alot of good one that help.And if he is broke.(which I dont think so) talk to his wife about getting him getting some help before he does something drastic.
2006-10-20 17:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if he doesn't want to pray to the Lord, You need to do it for him. He need the Lord on his side and for the sake of the children. Please keep praying for him to give the Lord a chance to help him. God will help if someone will get down on their knees and prays. and if not him then Please you must pray for him and his children. God will come through. He will not let him down. God be with you all. You are a very good friend. God will bless you too.
2006-10-20 17:10:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make him seek help. And you have to make sure that he follows your advice. Some people use this excuse to get their way any you must never allow this, Keep them on track about getting help, Now if he screams and hollers about not getting help then I strongly recomend that you back off and give him some space for he may be real and he may not be for real........
2006-10-20 17:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by kilroymaster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would defiantely go to his mom. Explain to her that even though she does not know you, you are very good friends with her son and you are scared for him. Explain to her the things he has been telling you and maybe she will be able to do and intervention with you to get him some help.
2006-10-20 17:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by avonlady_IL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
my friend is like that, or was.... I'm not friends with him anymore...
he's suicidal,on drugs, and smoking and drinking! But everyday, i regret giving up on him and not getting help for him. I think there's still enough time to get him some help from a physcologist or a doctor.... hecoud also use a nice,ong,relaxing vacation....
GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-20 17:05:42 · answer #9 · answered by tetrisss 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go to his family and tell him to get some help.
2006-10-20 17:06:11 · answer #10 · answered by andy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋