I'm bi, and befriend well with some female also. I'm currently in relationship with a caring and loving guy... so I tell her that I'm not interested. Still, she doesn't seem to give up easily and still wants me.... Tell me, what should I do then? Should I tell my bf? I don't want to ruin all my relationship here, so help me, please?
2006-10-20 16:58:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sit down with her and tell her that while you're flattered, you already have someone in your life that you do not want to let go of, and therefore you cannot be anything more than a friend to her. If she really cares about you, she may be hurt, but she should understand and respect that, and appreciate the fact that at least she has your friendship. If she still continues to chase you after you've made those things extremely clear to her, tell her she's making you uncomfortable with her advances. If it still continues making advances, stop hanging out with her, cause she obviously doesn't respect your feelings.
I don't think you should necessarily tell your bf unless the situation starts getting out of hand for you, but it's up to you. Do you think it's important that he knows what's going on? If you hang out with him and her both at the same time, it could make things awkward.
2006-10-20 18:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by goldenrose82 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are in a relationship already. If she knows that she should bring some respect for that. If I were you I should tell her polite that you have a boyfriend (tell it again) and that you won't give this up for her. She might stop making advances, cause you told her loud and clear that you aren't interested. If she is an average person she will respect that and leave you with your bf.
hope this helps
2006-10-21 03:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that in no way are you interested in a sexual relationship with her. Tell her you want to continue to be friends and if she refuses to back off you will have no choice but to end the friendship. Then back off a little bit and get some space. It wont take her long to realize that your friendship is more important than a sexual relationship.
2006-10-21 00:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by lyns 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Noa, u know what to do! Your just tempted that's all, and aren't we all. Tell her your feelings for your guy are more important than jumping in the sheets with her. End of story. If she really is your good friend, she'll back off and understand. Mwah.
2006-10-23 21:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Tall Guy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have discretion, and dignity..not only for yourself, but for these others you care about. Tell her that you are flattered, but committed to another, and keep your commitment. As a friend to her, keep her feelings between you and her, and do not create extra tension by violating that confidence and sharing it with your boyfriend. Allow yourself dignity and restraint, and give that gift to both of them as well.
2006-10-21 00:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mark L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are in love with the person your dating then he should understand when you tell him and talk to your friend and tell her what he thinks.if the guy your dating doesnt want to talk about and thinks your a freak, then date the person who wants to go out with you and forget the other guy.
2006-10-21 00:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Munchkinluvsyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much do you value the relationship with your boyfriend?
threesomes usually aren't conducive to long term commitments.
someone's got a decision to make here.
2006-10-21 00:04:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her in no uncertain terms that you are with someone and want her to stop her advances, if she can't do that then you will have to stop hanging out with her...
2006-10-21 00:01:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love another and sleep only alone
2006-10-21 02:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have sex with her. But you're very seirous with your boyfriend so you should tell your friend no, and you want to stay friends becuase you love your bf.
2006-10-21 00:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋