Im sad just becuz i asked this guy to a dance and he said no....?

Question

i asked this guy to a dance a few weeks ago and he hasn't answered(i had a question about this guy)so i asked him again by note and my friend told me that he said he was going alone...i feel so sad that he didnt say yes and the fact that it's my first dance but i also feel sad for him that so many girls asked him to the dance.....i mean i dont blame him....but idk if were friends or anything?do u think he freaked out when he found out that i first gave him the note?how can i ask him if were friends....i know this might be simple but i really like him and im not used to talking to boys....please help!!

Answer 1

When ever I ask a girl out and she says “No” I just assume that I missed all the signs that said she was a lesbian. You should just assume that this boy must be a homosexual and let him know that you support him in his lifestyle choice.

Answer 2

it might be a little weird if this is also his first dance. He might ask u during a dance. If he says no again ask him why not he might have a very ood reason

Answer 3

you shouldn't worry bout how he feels if you really wanna kno how he feels then just go ask him.. guys like a girl who goes after what they want so even if he doesn't like you like that you might even become friends..and believe it or not guys feel the same way that girls do..there intimidated by some girls...

Answer 4

Either: 1)he wants nothing to do with you 2)he likes you a lot and doesn't want to be "friends" but something closer. A lot of girls never date guys that they label as "friends," when a lot of these guys who are so-called friends, do have a lot of feelings for these girls. Either he realizes that you would never date him because you consider him a "friend," or he plainly outright doesn't like you anymore (because you dumped his best friend), or maybe a combination of both. Is he tired of being "friends?" If he likes you a lot, YES! I have had the privilege of experiencing many such occurrences where I liked the girl very much but she only liked me as a "friend." So, many times, I got angry at them and stopped speaking to them because it hurt me so much to see the girls go for the guys that they told me that they would "never go for." Also, there is an "attraction" technique which is quite popular with guys (most use it unknowingly, but some use it knowingly), which is basically to ignore the girl, or show her that she means nothing to you and you don't even need her in the first place, and the girl actually gets attracted to you more (it is a psychological mechanism responsible for that.) Whatever the reason for his actions: anger or creative manipulation, doesn't matter at this point. What does matter is how you feel and what you choose to do about it. Do you want to be "friends" with him or something more? Do you like him, attracted to him, or not? And finally, once you know exactly what you want, then you can proceed from there. I feel you are confused, in terms of the signs that he is throwing you. You seem quite upset, so he must mean something to you. (A lot of inexperienced girls run away from relationship with guys that mean something to them and go for guys that have less connection on a personal level. It feels safe to do so, because with your friends, all of your "protective personal barriers" are down.) I suspect you want something more than a friendship and are afraid to go for it, and hence being confused and not knowing what to do. There is a lot of fear around it. You don't want to admit that you really like him, so you say things like, "Oh, I just like him as a friend," which gives you the excuse for ignoring your real feelings for him, and pretending that it's somehow his fault that all of this is happening to you. Remember, you are the one who is confused, not him. You must decide if 1) you're willing to put aside your fears and go for what you really want. Or, 2) you continue to be miserable as you are, and continue to blame him or yourself, and in the end you will have enough of the pain inside, scar yourself for life, move on while keeping all the pain inside, and maybe after 20 years or so, realize the mistakes you have made as a result of that one decision to hold on to your fear and blame him and yourself. Remember, being true to yourself is the most important gift you can give yourself in this life. (What's the point of life, if you keep lying to yourself and then denying the fact that you're lying to yourself, and then you can't even be true to yourself, and as a result, can't even be true to others. It's your choice, either way.

Answer 5

Pick yourself up and act as if you are fine and go to that dance , have fun and forget the bo whoos .

Answer 6

he probably just likes u and doesn't wanna admit it...