Even though we are here together, he sleeps in his room and I sleep in mine. We are together only for the kids. The kids love him very much and they love me very much. I can't see making the husband leave for my own selfishness because I would like to see other men.
2006-10-20 16:35:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If the kids love you and the kids love him, I'm not so sure that divorce is the best answer. If you divorce, then basically the kids will be losing one of you most of the time. People on here go around saying things like a bad marriage is bad for the kids, but isn't it worse for the kids if you basically lose a parent?
I don't know if it's possible or not, but perhaps you guys could discretely see other people and still be married. I think that could just possibly be better than divorcing.
2006-10-21 00:27:49 · answer #1 · answered by KT 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to either leave him and have the freedom to be with other men, or you stay right where you are and be faithful to him no matter what. Your going to leave your husband sooner or later even if it's when the kids are moved out of the house. The kids will still have to witness a divorce down the road even when their old enough and out on their own. The pain will still be there for them regardless. I don't think that you should see other men while your still married because it's still cheating. If you want to see other men then you need to divorce your husband or legally seperate from him. Your situation is hard, but life is about making tough desicions and sometimes you have to do things you just don't want to do. You either leave and start living a life you really want to live or stay where you are and be miserable until your kids get older.
2006-10-20 16:45:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made a committment, and if you got married in a church, then you made a VOW to GOD that you would stay with this man, through better or WORSE... and FORSAKE all others. You need to get into counseling with a good pastor and/or religious counselor (of your religion) either with your husband or if he won't go, go by yourself. But if you divorce, what is that teaching your children, that promises don't mean anything? That committment and vows are a bunch of bunk? You have to be an example to your children that although life is sometimes so incredibly hard and seems unfair, you still have to do the RIGHT thing, that's what builds people of good character. So NO, you can't go and be an adulterer. If you had a son, would you want his wife to go and cheat on him whenever their marriage had really bad times or would you want her to do the right thing and work on the marriage? The kind of woman you are, is the kind of woman your son will marry. If you have a daughter.. you need to be the kind of woman you'd want your daughter to grow up to be. Parents are childrens best examples.
2006-10-20 16:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by Christina M L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I am in the same boat. My wife wants nothing to do with me but expects I pay everything and be home at night so I can sleep in the basement which I had to convert to my bedroom! I would love to be intimate with my wife but cheating isn't the solution but it would definatley satisfy some urges! Sit down and discuss divorce. There is no reason to be together anymore!
2006-10-20 17:19:05 · answer #4 · answered by Jamey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! My ex suggested the same scenario (both of us living in the same house for the kids) and I thought "How can this be good for the kids?" Not to be blunt, but you are modeling that a loveless marriage is good, and healthy, and the way a family should be. Kick your husband out, divorce him, and move on.
2006-10-20 16:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by little1missy1234 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consider counseling first. If that doesn't work get a divorce. After, see other men. It is easy to take the easy way out. Sometimes all it needs is a little nudge in the right direction.
2006-10-20 16:49:16 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date other men and parade men through the house. Your kids are gonna love this.
2006-10-20 16:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in order for u to see other men u would need to be legally divorced. do u think ur children would be happy to find out later in life that while u lived with their father u saw other men??
2006-10-20 16:49:29 · answer #8 · answered by singlemomintx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what sex and sleep arrangements you make, you ARE married. So, "seeing" others is wrong for either of you. Be faithful, or be divorced.
2006-10-20 16:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still married and that would be wrong. It would also confuse the children. It would be best to divorce first.
2006-10-20 16:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋