I am posting this for a friend. She has been married for a few years, both of them in their mid 20's, with children. Her husband won't give her oral sex. She is meticulously clean, but he feels the act is "dirty". Is this normal or abnormal? Should she go about her whole life without this, or is this a major issue? Should he compromise and give in? Does any other guy feel the same way?
2006-10-20 16:22:16 · 17 answers · asked by nicenwicked 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I enjoy giving oral, adds a lot of spice to the bedroom. I don't understand how it is "dirty". Sex acts between two people are meant to be fullfilling and actually a beutiful thing. Especially in a marriage. Tell your friend that most guys enjoy sex and other sexual acts when they are with the one they love. There is a difference between LOVE and LUST.
2006-10-20 16:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by the one who knows 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This IS a major issue. She should not give in, but she should compromise. She should explain to him that she will only give him oral sex if he gives her oral sex first. And she will have to both stick by it and MEAN IT!!!! Otherwise, she will have to accept the fact that he doesn't like it. And that will lead to problems later on down the road.... we humans can do some wild and crazy things when we aren't getting what we want and need sexually. Good luck & best wishes to her!
2006-10-20 16:58:19 · answer #2 · answered by Jemmie Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband won't either. He feels the same way no matter how clean I am. BUT, he thinks it's fine to give him oral. Well.... I said hey, no, sorry, I can't because it's dirty. If he doesn't want to do it, believe me, she is not going to enjoy it if he compromises. She'll have it in her head the whole time that he doesn't really want to do this because it's "dirty".
2006-10-20 19:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman and Wives listen and learn. I'm getting too old to keep teaching. Practice with a popsicle. Start slow just at the tip as it melts you lick so it won't drip. When it melts too fast what do you do? You try to put it all in your mouth so it won;t drip. Keep practicing on the popsicle, when you think you are ready then try it on him it will blow his mind guarantee. Just keep thinking I can't let the popsicle melt. Trust me with the right frame of mind you'll do great.
2016-05-22 06:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband won't do it either. Even though I keep it neat & clean down there. He says he just dosn't like it. He's also said he dosn't like the taste/smell. Even though I eat alot of fruits, so its fruity down there (yes for real, I know this both on myself& other people) I tried getting flavored lubercants, but he still dosn't want to. I've gotten it once for every year we've been thogether, thats 4 years now, but he hasn't done it yet this year. I think he's just lazy, because when he does do it, he does it GREAT!!! when I want it & he won't do it, If I wanna be a b*tch I tell him that he sure dosn't mind getting it. he just replys its different cause I love to give it.(& I know thats true). If he complains he won't cause of the smell & I want to be a b*tch, I just tell him his stuff dosn't always smell great, but I get around that. So ya, she'll probley will just have to put up with it. If she really likes the feeling though, they have viboraters she can buy to simulate what it really feels like. I've never tried those, but I hear they feel good.I've been thinking about it though.
2006-10-20 16:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by prepishippie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he give her oral before they had kids? Maybe he "sees" that area as completely non-sexual ever since the kids came along. I agree that she shouldn't give him any oral if it's not being reciprocated. Also, bring it up outside of the bedroom and ask him why.....can't hurt to ask. We can't force anyone to do anything sexual that they don't want to do. So really, a good talk is needed.
2006-10-20 16:33:43 · answer #6 · answered by chnchita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
does your friend give her husband oral sex? could this be the problem? I don't' think there is a man alive that would want to be without that. let me know!
2006-10-20 16:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by me2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oral sex is viewed differently by different people and some guys don't like the taste. I have to keep spitting, so I rarely do it.
2006-10-20 16:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Frank R. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a child abuse issue or some traumatic experience he had prior to marriage. They might need to look into a sex therapist to get over it on in this case into it.
2006-10-21 03:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the guy is nuts I love it and if she is doing him- she needs to stop until a compromise is made-- marriage is for all sex positions free and willing not to be limited in certain ways or areas --all should be done -- it's all good and healthy
2006-10-21 09:36:54 · answer #10 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋