you always hear amazing stories about couples who are each others first lovers and how they learn together and stuff.. and it really bothers me that i wont be his first...so is it okay to go ahead with it, or should i wait for a virign (that sounds stupid in print but hopefully you see what im getting at?)
thanks.
2006-10-20 16:17:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what i mean is, will it be special not just for me, but for both of us, etc.. will it matter if hes been with other girls.. it really bothers me.. but is there a difference between a virgin guy and experienced.. i mean, a horny guy is a horny guy...
2006-10-20 16:19:45 · update #1
IF YOU ARE ABSTINENT shut up i dont care.
2006-10-20 16:20:20 · update #2
That is something only you can answer. It can still be a special moment for both of you as long as you are ok with it. However if you are having doubts I would wait until those doubts had been cleared.
Ask yourself this important question: Does he want a future with you or is he just looking for another conquest? I have a feeling the answer to that question will come very close to matching the answering yours.
2006-10-20 16:30:12 · answer #1 · answered by asitcomes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, Do u love this dude, Is he good to u, Do u think that he will truly understand what u are going through? The first time is a really special time of ur life. u will never forget it and it's up to u if u want him to teach u about it or if u want to learn together with someone else that's a virgin.
If u are still a teen then that means u have a lot of time in the future to meet a virgin, IF U FEEL IN UR HEART THAT THIS IS THE RIGHT TIME FOLLOW UR HEART, BUT BE CAREFUL THAT HE IS JUST NOT SOME DUDE THAT'S LYING TO U TO GET IN UR PAINS. AND BE SURE HE IS NOT OVER 18 because that means he will break the law, i hope ur talking about someone that's around the same age as u.
sometimes it's hard to tell the difference, between sex just for sex sex for love. I used to say before i got married"that if he can wait and not have sex and still stay with me then i knew he was the the one that really loved me and not only wanted me for sex".
well, i hope you wait until u know u are redy,alwways wear protetion. i know u don't want no bay or std's , right?
Take care, don't let no man rush u in to sex. u do it when u know u are ready.
I'm 25 and i was way too young when i lost mine, but at the time i thought i knew what i was doing.Nowthat i'm 25 i wish sometimes that my husband could have been my first.
take care , l8rs By DIsaMarie
2006-10-20 16:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im guessing your a teen, so Im going to base my answer on this assumption. Guys that are young are like you said horny. To be honest his first time probably wasnt that special to him he was probably just really excited to have had sex. Young guys dont think of sex as special and deep and intimate they think of it as sex. They use it to make themselves sound cool to there friends and sometimes they can be jerks when giving the details. Dont have sex with this guy until you feel ready and dont worry about it being special IF this guy TRULY cares for you it will be special even if its his 500th time because it was his first time with you a girl who he really cares for. Take it from me I slept with a few guys before I met my husband but my first time with him was more special than any other time ever! It was because it was with the man that I loved and what made it even better was the fact that he loved me too. I suggest you make him wait, if he really cares he will wait as long as it takes, if he just wants some action he will find it elsewhere and if thats the case you dont need him! I hope this helps you, good luck hun! =)
2006-10-20 16:26:14 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, but you have to look at the bigger picture. How old are you? The longer you wait for a man claiming to be a virgin the less likely you are to find one.
What if your first is a virgin but he's not the guy you stay with? What if you then meet a virgin, but he doesn't want to be with you since he's a virgin and you're not?
If you really care about the guy you are with and want to have sex with him, why should it matter who he's been with in the past? Maybe you are a virgin, but have you ever kissed another guy? Have you ever done other things with another guy? Don't let his past relationships be a deciding factor in this.
2006-10-20 16:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by taskr36 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just out of curiousity, how old are u?
And to answer your question, I don't think it's wrong for 2 people who love each other to have sex despite the fact that one of them is not a virgin and the other one is. The past is the past for him and I'm sure he doesn't bring it up w/ you so just try and forget whatever he's done before. If he TRULY loves you and you TRULY love him then this shouldn't be an issue. Just look forward and don't worry about what HAS happened.
2006-10-20 16:21:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends I guess, on who the other(s) he's been with were. There's so many whacked vd's out there - you don't want your first experience to land you in the doctors office with vaginal warts or some crazy crap like that!
You've got a long life ahead of you, don't let one moment of indiscretion ruin the rest of your life - I guess what I'm saying is, just be sure you know what your doing.
2006-10-20 16:24:56 · answer #6 · answered by Danno 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have doughts then chances are that your not ready and the idea that hes done it can work for or against you. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and listen to your gut instinct. And if he is worth sleeping with then he will listen to you too. If or when you decide to sleep with him then his past should be his past and you both should concentrate on your future together.
2006-10-20 16:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work if you are sure he loves you. Otherwise, I'm afraid you could end up feeling hurt because the first time should be pleasant, at least.
My first time was with another virgin, and it sucked. I loved him but he didn't love me. That's why I think love is the most important factor (and research).
Advise: Make sure he buys lubricated condoms.
2006-10-20 16:20:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never ever give him your virginity before married. If you think about the sensation, I will be amazing If you two are really deep in love each other. No matter If you haven't experience it yet, By the time goes on, You will know.
2006-10-20 16:25:22 · answer #9 · answered by Rabbit-X 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it's ok to have him as your first. And it's ok for you to want to be his first also, but since you can't be..be thankful that he has had some experience so it wont be so awkward.As long as you can get past the fact that you weren't his first, things should be ok.I hope you have given it alot of thought because your virginity is very special and should be treated as such.GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-20 16:22:45 · answer #10 · answered by Sharon R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋