i need your peopls help please?

Question

my uncel died a few months and i think i have gone crazy when he was in the hospital i never whent to say goodbye to him at his wake i was so out of it it was the way he died that kills me more than anything it was the worst thing that anyone could picture at his wake i could not even look at him at his funeral i did not say goodbye to him or nothing and now i will never get to say it or tell him how much i love him ever since he died i have been wishing i died with him im only 14 my mom says i need to get out and start doing thing but now i dont have anything to live for so what is the use plus im teasing him its like im saying look at me im still here and your not and he dose not deserv (i spelt that wrong) that my mom says im feeling this way because i have not cried i dont think that it is tru why am i still on this earth and he is not god must hate me or somthing what do i do to stop hating myself thanks for any help it is grately appriceated

is ther a way to forgive myselt with out ending my life i dont want too die but if that is what it takes it is sounding a hole lot better than sitting here being a burden to you guy and everyone else in my family do you think it is crappy of me to beso mad and upseat i wish he would have died any way but the way that he did thanks for you resposes any bit i hope helps

Answer 1

if you are a christian(if you are not sorry for giving you such a sucky answer)

God will work it out trust me(pray).......................thats what i did when my sis died (we were really close)
its hard but......................

Answer 2

You have to face the facts; he is dead now he will not come back. I don't know why you have never seen him at hospital because of what problem, but now it’s useless to start hating yourself for that. If you really love him then stop getting hated by yourself. If you become sad he too becomes sad, as he is in the world right now from where he can see you or may be he is around you, but you are unable to see him. It might be possible that your current behavior might make him sad too. The pain of losing loved ones is the greatest pain of all, but time doesn't stops for anyone. If you stopped at this moment, you'll never recover from that incident. I am not saying that you should jump start your life again, but try to become normal by time. You have to live with it.

Answer 3

First I am very sorry about your Uncle, yes it is hard when some one you love has passed away, try find grief support groups in your area, ask your parents for counceling, I think you need help if you feel you have no reason to live, bucause you do !! everyone does. when our jobs are finished here then we die. so looks to me that your job on earth isnt finished yet. Sweety talk to your parents again and again and again til they listen to you yell at them if you have to make them hear you and get some help fast !!! please e-mail me and let me know how you are doing.

Lace is right, write him a letter, start a journal, thats what I done when my Mom passed last year. Great answer Lace !! Hope we all have helped you.

Answer 4

Honey you need to grieve. have a good cry. and you need to pray to God for guidance. He does not hate you . he died for you that you may be forgiven and have eternal life. You are not alone. honey your mother is right you need to get out and around with your friends. you are not teasing your uncle you are just handling your grief in a different way. There are many ways to grieve. Some people get mad at the person fr leaving them and some just go into depression and that is why you need to get out with the friends. and Pray that God will give you inner piece. he loves you and if you ask he will help you through this grief you are going through. I love you and so does God. Many hugs and kisses to you. God be with you always.

Answer 5

If you felt in your heart that you did not say good bye to your uncle. Tell him now, he is here he is in your heart. All you have to do is talk to him. Ask him to visit him in your dreams. You definately need to read Sylvia Browne books. I have learned so much about death and why certain people die and why others still live. Go to your local library and check out her books. Any one of them will explain to you about people passing on and going to the other side. Girl, you are so young, you have your whole life ahead of you. Dont you have dreams of growing up and being someone? God loves you more than you will ever know and you are here for a very good reason. Perhaps you need to help others, give of yourself. It will certainly help you get out of this rut. If you ever need to talk, let me know. You can always send an email.

Answer 6

Sweety, this is perfectly normal.

It is always very hard to say good-bye to the people we love. I lost my role-model 12 years ago. I was 8 years old, and 'til this very day, I still cry when I think about him.

It's okay to miss him. And for a time, it's okay to be mad or upset. But you can't be upset with yourself. What happened isn't your fault. The fact that you didn't say good-bye at his wake isn't your fault either. You weren't ready to say good-bye.

You're Mom is partially right. Perhaps you need to cry. Maybe you need to rant and scream and get your frustrations out. Perhaps starting a diary to vent your thoughts into will help. Some way, you have to find an outlit to vent off this negative emotion.

If you are close enough to the Cemetary, go visit your Uncle. Whether you only do it once, or you do it every week, is entirely up to you. Go there and talk to him. Sit, kneel, or stand beside his tombstone and talk to him. Tell him about your life. Tell him you miss him. Cry to him. Pray for him.

God doesn't hate you. He puts us all through trials. But He'd never put us through something we can't handle. God has His reasons for bringing your Uncle home to Him. Perhaps your Uncle would have had to go through a terrible event. Perhaps it would have jeoperidized his soul. Instead of going through all that pain, God decided it was his time. Perhaps this is also to make you stronger. God will help you through anything if you ask Him. But.. like I said earlier, he never puts us through more than we can handle. Maybe you feel like it's too overwhelming, but you can make it through. It will hurt, it will take time, but you will make it through. And, when God says it's your time, you will join Him and your Uncle in Heaven. But don't try to rush that date. A premature death is never the answer. God will take care of you, Sweetie. Even if you don't believe me now.. you'll see.

Go visit your Uncle. Bring him some flowers. Talk to him, cry to him, or even yell and scream. Get it out. Say good-bye. And remember he'll always love you. And he'll always be there for you.. even if you can't see him.

Answer 7

GURL DONT BE LIKE THAT THATS KRAZY MY UNCLE DIED O FROM SUEISIDE IN MARCH TO HE WAS ONLY 36 IM 16 I DIDNT TALK TO HIM FOR LIKE A YEAR BE FOR HE DIED BECAUSE HE LIVE LIKE 5 HOURS AWAY FROM ME BUT I FELT SO BAD MY CUZNS HIS KIDS DIDNT TALK TO HIM THEY WERE MAD AT HIM.
YOUR MOM IS RIGHT U JUST NEED TO CRY U WILL FEEL SO MUCH BETTER.
AN GOD LOVES U.
IT WAS YOUR UNCLES TIME TO GO THATS ALL U WILL SEE HIM LATER JUST DONT BE DEPRESSED.

Answer 8

it is hard when there is a loss of a loved one it is'nt easy for the younger generation to say goodbye to a loved one and it is never to late to do it you can have your mother take you to the grave to tell him goodbye and how much you love him

Answer 9

go in your room, shut the door, and write him a letter, tell him everything that you need to tell him, and everything you want him to know, seal it in and envelope and get your mom to take you to the cemetary and lay it on his grave. Your will feel so much better after you do that. Trust me...........