Without me at work, my would not be succesful. I made a huge impact on the place. I am hardworking, responsible, professional and a serious person. I have a family to support. I have 2 co-workers who don't like me because I am honest, nice and good.
What gives?
2006-10-20 15:55:36 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
One person is my male supervisor who doesn't know his work and trashes others and the other is a younger female co-worker. I am Korean. I am not arrogant. I am helpful to everyone. I am the manager of the place and both of them don't understand the responsibilities of my job. They have no concept. I have been there the longest.
2006-10-21 05:18:08 · update #1
YOU ARE TO MODEST.
2006-10-20 15:57:06 · answer #1 · answered by cork 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They don't like your light shining on what they want kept in the dark? We really can't know, but here are some more guesses. Maybe you are not a team player, and should be lending a hand so they can reach their goal? Or maybe you are a team player and that is just too "in-your-face" for them? Maybe you don't keep your honesty and goodness to yourself and let others know about it (that gets misconstrued as bragging)? Maybe your huge impact is like a tsunami that has impacted them & swept away all their brownie points that they worked so hard for (not hard for you, but hard for those that have an internal war against dishonesty and inconsideration)? Or maybe they are a couple of jerks?
I'm sorry, I haven't overcome this same kind of situation, but I've come up with a lot of guesses. Don't over-think it, but do consider the large positive impact they have on your workplace and find a polite way of giving them praise on occasion (don't over do it, you don't want to come across as insincere).
2006-10-20 23:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by J Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just it. You think very highly of yourself. Maybe you are a little bit TOO high on yourself. A bit arrogant. You can be successful without bragging about yourself and not everyone with whom you work with must like you. You are there to WORK not to be liked. I want you to re-read your question above and really read the words you wrote about yourself. If you were an honest ,nice , and good person why wouldn't someone like you? Maybe it's because you are flaunting around that you made a huge impact on the place and that it wouldn't be successful without you. Maybe you make them feel as if they had nothing to do with it and that makes them angry. Maybe they feel there was a team effort and you are taking all the glory for yourself. That would make anyone angry and when people are angry they tend to say all sorts of mean things. Maybe you should think about some serious personality flaws.
2006-10-20 23:16:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The last 3 descriptions may be true but, something could be canceling those. There is some attitude you are not aware of in yourself or in them or you just don't fit with the others and are meant for a better station. If you are the reason that your business is successful, then it is apparent to your boss and you have more clout than your co-workers have. May you resolve the conflict.
2006-10-20 23:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you must be sick of hearing this already, but perhaps you are a little arrogant. But don't feel bad, i have that trouble too sometimes. I used to flaunt my niceness and honesty and stuff, and i later realized that i made other people feel like they were dishonest or not nice.
like someone else said, you could praise someone else at your work.
this is just me, but i realized a few months ago that i talked about myself an awful lot. i didn't even realize it before! But if you talk to other people, like ask them questions about their life, how are they doing, how are their kids, etc, then they will feel like you truly are kind and truly care. They will feel like they're interesting! And they will feel wanted and loved (loved in a way).
2006-10-20 23:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you display great qualities like honesty, integrity, ethics...hard work...etc....it is like putting up a mirror in your co-workers faces and they see what they are sorely lacking. They despise you for it! You are going to have to get your support elsewhere...you are not going to be appreciated from co-workers like that. Maybe a new job is in order. If not...focus on the management or those that appreciate what you are contributing. Just don't fall into their trap and forfeit all you have to offer because of their low self worth. Good luck!
2006-10-20 23:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by yakimablueyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bet those two co workers are women, eh?.....if true, I don't know why women do that....experienced that myself....if your nice and people respond to that, for some reason someone gets jealous I guess, for what I have no idea....like high school in the work place...if your a good worker, and don't gossip, your the outcast....I have a good job where hallelujah, I don't have to deal with that crap!!!
2006-10-20 23:40:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that maybe you have irritating habits that you may not be aware of?
Do you crunch ice? Tap pencils? Smack gum? Squeak your chair?
No one doesn't like a person because they are honest, nice, and good. There is something else about you that is bothering them!
2006-10-20 23:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Elaura 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give somone else credit for the work they do...Praise them if you see them excel! Maintain your honesty and goodness.
2006-10-20 23:15:11 · answer #9 · answered by 35 YEARS OF INTUITION 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everywhere you go this will happen. You have to decide if it's worth sticking it out and biting your tongue or if you need to leave and go out in a blaze of glory
2006-10-20 22:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by blackratsnake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy....Envy.
2006-10-20 22:56:53 · answer #11 · answered by just lQQkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋