When I first started dating my fiance over a year ago, he was sex crazy. When we did start having sex, we had sex all the time! Then I had to move for school and he came with me and the past six months have been awful. He argues about every little thing and eight out of ten times I mention wanting to have sex, he says something like "why can't you let it happen naturally?" (because it won't happen otherwise) "you always ruin it by talking about it!" - then I get angry and he gets angry because I'm angry. I know I'm attractive, successful, and highly sexual. Now when we do have sex which is once every two weeks these days, it's awkward, he procrastinates, makes excuses, etc and it's no longer fun, it's not good at all. I love him and want good sex! I flirt, touch, tease. I usually get rejected. Then he claims I never do these things. He gets angry if I flirt with him while we're watching a movie. What is going on? I feel like taping my engagement ring to his television.
2006-10-20 15:43:09 · 11 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Face it, honey, he grew tired of you. It's time to move on!
2006-10-20 15:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he feels insecure about your relationship since the move.
Give him his space and see what happens.He's already told you why,so try what he suggested(stop talking about it,let it happen naturally).It won't kill you to wait awhile and see what happens.You can always pleasure yourself.Try doing something new with him,something kinky.Maybe he has a fetish you could try,or different positions.Let him be the aggressive one for a change.
Sex isn't and shouldn't be the entire focus of your relationship.And if it is then say goodbye,cause it won't last.If you are serious with this relationship,then you have to put the work in and find out whats wrong.If your not,why bother,and leave.
Good luck
2006-10-20 23:01:09 · answer #2 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think long and hard about whether this relationship can last. Holding on to sentimental memories of a great past is not enough. You need to ask him why he has had such a change of heart, and if it is able to be fixed.
You may need to think about the other fish in the sea and move on. not the only suggestion, but you sound too nice to be treated like this for the next 50 years.
I like the 'dont mention it' tact. try it, and just act like you too have no use for it. if after a month or two there is no change run to the hills.
2006-10-20 22:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by SAINT G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell no...getting into a sexual rut---its extremely hard to get out of. I myself am extremely sexual, but with my last boyfriend I felt like every little thing he did was motivated by trying to have sex with me later and it was a complete turnoff. Honestly, if everything is like it says you are, I would be curious about cheating. Second, he could be extremely insecure or stressed out about something specific in his life. See a therapist, because it wont get better, I promise. Sex is a huge part of any relationship and second to money, is the thing most argued about between couples. Fix it and fix it fast---he needs to put some effort into this. Sex isnt just about one person, and sometimes, you just have to please the other person so that its pleasurable later.
2006-10-21 01:09:50 · answer #4 · answered by jenmimo7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe thing's isn't as exciting now because, you both put sex in front of getting to really enjoy each other first.I feel that intimacy without sex gives both persons time to truly look deep within each other.So take your time,enjoy each other first the sex will come in when the time is right,and it'll be better then ever.I've been down that road.
2006-10-20 23:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mary H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your topic is sex, but your issue is something else. He seems to be angry about something. How willing was he about relocating to where you are now? Maybe it's not that but it's something, & you need to get him to open up about it.
You said that you are successful where you are, but does HE consider HIMSELF successful at this time?
Yup he's angry alright, but it's NOT about sex.
2006-10-20 22:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW I know exactly how this feels;at first they want it, then they don't. Well, what I did was... I stopped talking about it. Now, he ends up wanting it before I say a word, and more often too.
If he doesn't want it even after you neglect mentioning it, He's dumb. Forget him.
2006-10-20 22:48:09 · answer #7 · answered by JessicaMLM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're attractive and you flirt with and tease him, then he's crazy for not responding! Find someone who will.
2006-10-20 22:49:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
every two weeks it's pretty good. Make him jelaous... Don't be over him all the time. They want to take initiative too.
2006-10-20 22:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he is soooooooooo not actracted to you anymore
2006-10-20 22:53:10 · answer #10 · answered by sexybabybloo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋