has been coming on to me over the phone and in person. it makes me nervous, but at the same time gives me a little thrill. im only 34 and my sons friend will be eighteen-how should i handle this?
2006-10-20 15:18:50 · 30 answers · asked by xtal6872 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Like a woman, remember he is old enough to be your son. Stand your ground as a Mother figure to him, not as a woman of intrest.
2006-10-20 15:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, after you've hummed a few bars of 'Here's to you, Mrs. Robinson' -- the way you should handle this is at arms length. Your oldest son's friend isn't coming into all this out of the blue. He's been getting some encouragement, or he wouldn't persist. And since the only other person in this scenario is you, you have to take 50% of the responsibility for what's going on. More than 50%, actually, because you're old enough to know better and he's an 18-year old with his jeans full of hormones.
You are exactly twice as old as he is. You should throw him back and let him play with the other kids his age, and go trolling in some other pond for yourself. You didn't mention whether you had a husband or not? We won't even discuss what you're doing if you are still married.
Next time your son's friend comes over, have on your oldest, dirtiest clothes and be down on all fours, scrubbing the kitchen floor. And tell him if he sets foot on your clean floor you'll kill him.
Those should be about the last words you speak to him. Quit playing games and try to behave like a grownup!
2006-10-20 22:25:06 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself and your son a BIG favor,snarl at the boy!
1. Tell him to come back when he is a big boy who can wipe himself-because you would rather an adult.
2. tell him to get a life because messing with him is like messing around with your own son - and 10 will get you 20 and loose your relationship with your own,all of them.
3. It may be flattering but really it's not an acceptable thing....If it continues,Tape him then tell your son his Friend is not OK, not aloud in your home,or to call there. If your son asks why tell the truth. You may need a restraining order, the kid may be working on becoming a rapist or thinks he can get you in a compromising situation and tell everyone what you said or did - want that for your kids ?
2006-10-20 22:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I feel you... I dont know but there is something about a young almost brandnew man... I wouldnt act on it but its still a good fantasy... the reason I say no is because is your son friend... and another reason is you can let your self to feel anything for someone whos that young unless both of you understand that is just purely a sex thing and it will have an end..but if you do have sex with a young man at least wait until he is 21 I wouldnt do younger than that.. its just kind of wrong...
2006-10-20 23:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a nice long talk with yourself and let yourself understand that this boy needs you to behave like a mature adult. Plenty of adults, especially ones in positions of authority like you are, have kids get crushes on them. The way you handle it, respectfully but firmly, will help form their ability to form trusting relationships with people their own age. Do this kid a favor and be the mature woman you are!
2006-10-20 22:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him privately that this is just not appropriate. Trust me, you do not want to go there as much as a thrill it may be. Your son will never forgive you and he is more important than any fling can be.
Way to go girl...you got it going on!
2006-10-20 22:20:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be very easy to fall in to his attraction, oh yes what a thrill it would be.it would be so easy for it to happen.put a end to it right away before anything happens.i would suggest you find a way to speak to him about this,you must think about all the people that would get hurt by this. do not think nobody will find out, because they always do.other than speaking to him about this, do not put yourself in any situation with him,that would allow anything to happen.
2006-10-20 22:29:37 · answer #7 · answered by wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get over yourself and realize this is a 18 yr old boy....Plus your sons friend... Before you end up really screwing up your son u need to stop it...It's very simple....Don't talk to him.I have a 18 yr old son and I would tell my son and tell my son to ask him not to call here again.Good luck
2006-10-20 22:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweet_thing_kay04 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow keep your spac before something goes wrong and you get arrested, its understnadable if you get a thrill from compliments like Gee, Mrs.so so you look real pretty today, but if he is saying like Gee, you looking sexy tonight and you get a thrill from that, thats wrong.
2006-10-20 22:24:39 · answer #9 · answered by girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you know you still got it goin on!
It looks like you've been judged as if you just slept with this kid already and you're only asking how to handle the situation.
Just don't act like he's getting to you, cause then it only eggs him on.
2006-10-20 22:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋