2006-10-20 15:11:03 · 28 answers · asked by always helpful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The big question is DO YOU LOVE HIM ?
ARE YOU WILLING TO QUIT CHEATING?
If so, don´t end your marriage.
Don´t tell him, things will never be the same.
2006-10-20 15:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, I cheated on my husband once under strenous circumstances. He was emotionally abusing me and he nearly found out! When that happened, he threaten to kill me or take my children away, which in that case, would also kill me. Then I realise how much my children meant to me. So, i quit my affair, although I still think and care a lot about m lover, go through the whole process of pain, hurt and guilt and accepted my husband back. I never told him the truth and today, I am trying very hard to get back on track. My point is, if you really love your husband and have reason to stay married, then don't tell him. Why spoil something that's going to be alright?
Cheating is about morals and ethics but telling your spouse, knowing it will hurt them is not.
The best thing is, QUIT the affair and get back on track before more damage is done.
Good luck and pray for forgiveness. I do...
2006-10-20 23:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by angelheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave...But Most People Live For The Drama And Attention They Get Out Of Cheating So....
2006-10-20 22:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if you want to try to salvage the relationship or not. Cheating is hurtful, so it is best to either stop the behavior or to simply end the marraige. But in the end, I think that even if you plan to leave, you should be a big enough person to tell your spouse about your infidelity before doing so...
2006-10-20 22:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would examine myself, to try to see why I had undermined my marriage in this way. I would end the cheat, and face the fact that my marriage needed my attention. Are there children being cheated on too?
Before you tell your spouse, have some idea what the heck you are doing. You can still turn this around, but you have to stop kidding yourself, and grow up.
2006-10-20 22:19:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the question is...but if you are the have your cake and eat it too type...leave an give your spouse a chance to find happiness elsewhere 'cause he/she won't be happy w/a cheating spouse...what a betrayal!
2006-10-20 22:13:43 · answer #6 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you only knew the feeling of a wife who is cheated you would never have done that to her. You may kill her with so much hurt and sadness. Be honest to her: to leave her living in a "limbo" is a situation that I don't deserve for my worst enemy.
I don't want to judge you, but cheating is something that the world should never know. It is sad, sadder than any word can tell.
Don't do things at the spur of a moment. You may regret for the rest of your life.....
2006-10-20 22:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Ms.Cook 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're the one married and cheating and you plan to keep on doing it, leave and spare him the heartbreak of living with a rotten person not to mention the STD's. If you plan on staying married, just stop.
2006-10-20 22:23:20 · answer #8 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is a question on this subject.... If one knew their son-in-law was cheating.Yet the wife made it apparent she didn't want to know. As the mother... what would you do? Please take into consideration the husband held all the wealth and her daughter had 3 children under the age of 6.per her husbands request had not worked outside the house in 7 years , what would you do to help ?!
2006-10-20 22:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by thirsty mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best policy is always honesty, it is going to devastate the spouse. and either way you are going to leave . so be a real person starting now and own up to your infidelity or ies and take your medicine. and prepare your self for the consequences yet to come
2006-10-20 23:41:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
still seeing the guy you cheated with? then it is best to leave , of course you owe him the truth about it all. if it is over then you need to decide what is best for you. can you continue in the marriage an be honest or are you so unhappy that you must go on.
2006-10-20 22:15:39 · answer #11 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋