he is a married man and she is a married woman who is willing to walk away from everything to be with him but she doesn't believe he is willing or going to leave now that it has been several years? he says they should stay friends if she feels she needs to move on. i say she needs to tell him to jump off a bridge and tell his wife because she is not the only one just the main mistress if that makes sense!! she won't listen to me because i am seeing a married man myself (i didn't know when i started seeing him) but just from my experience and the fact she wants more i think my friend is wasting her time and this wife has no idea how big a dog her husband is -- even has the mistress to someone i smell dog poo
2006-10-20 14:53:47 · 7 answers · asked by always helpful 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, if he is a Married man and she is his Mistress, then she should be wanting to get out of that relationship completely. And with her having the intention of getting out of that situation.She should want to not only stop having the affair with him she should also want to just not have any contact with him at all. It would be the best thing that she could do for her self. Because if she decides to just stay his friend, she should know that in the long run he will begin to convince her to become his Mistress all over again. She should just wipe the slate clean completely when she leaves him for good.
I wish her the best of luck!
2006-10-20 16:16:08 · answer #1 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a honest answer.
Yes, it is possible to stay friends with your lover. I went with this lady while I was separated from my wife, and I still consider her a friend. We do not have sex together, because she is with another man now, but we do talk sometimes. We do talk about the past, and different things we did when we were together.
She tells me that she will not have sex with me again, as long as her and I are both married but we will remain good friends.
My wife does not believe this, but it is the actual truth.
2006-10-20 22:00:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my answer is to both of you LEAVE THE MEN. Your friend nor you are getting anything out of the relationship except being able to say I have a boy friend. If either man were interested in you he would get a divorce. You and your friend both should look for a man that would appreciate the love you can give him and he will give back to you.
2006-10-20 22:05:44 · answer #3 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes a fool........she needs to concentrate on her own life.
Maybe you should tell her lovers wife? If he has a few on the side, then she wont be in the spot light!
Just try to think how any of you would feel if your husband was cheating.......and everyone else knew but you?
2006-10-20 21:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I would leave him alone if he has kids. if no kid involved she shouldn't be telling him to leave his wife. He should just do it if he really likes the other person better.
2006-10-20 21:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey .. i guess im slow.. as i havent followed your post at all... but the question.... i understand..i think ... its only possible if FIREWORKS area no-no.. you nkow.. both the parties have actually moved on!!!!
2006-10-20 21:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by barley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to dump him.
he's not really looking to be a friend, by any legit definition of the word.
2006-10-20 21:58:50 · answer #7 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋