why did I cry?

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That's my last question, i have plenty mor eon my husband, but anyway. Last night he help me when we were in bed ready to sleep. I had to ask him to, and he said no at first. I never have asked him to before, but I have felt so lonely recently. He did after a few seconds, and I started crying quietly to my self. I cried myself to sleep. I was so happy he held me, I was also upset because I've just been so sad. What's wrong? I'm not the type that cries easily. He's the only person who can make me cry, and he's done so, but usually only when he doesnt even know.

think it'll happen again? overload of bottled up emotions- is that what happened?

i meant held, you know, to spoon in bed

Answer 1

This happens with me and my husband when we don't spend enough time with each other. I start to feel lonely and scared that he doesn't need me or want me anymore. All these little things add up and i just burst. I have recently found that when this starts i need to tell him what's bothering me. Just don't come at him with a 100 things. Men will tend to feel as though it's an attack. Don't hold back when you are mad. yes. There is a right time and place for arguments. But, they need to happen. If they don't when does the make up sex happen? :) He married you because he wants to be there for you as much as you want to be there for him. If you need to cry, cry with him holding you. If he doesn't hold you tell him you want him to. Saying what you need and want directly will makes things happier and easier for both of you. No one wants to guess about whats going on. If you think that you might be depressed. Go to a councilor. They are more about talking things out than giving you drugs. Remember, in marriage... There are moments when you can't stand each other. Moments when you can't live with out each other and the timeless moments that make all the sweat, tears and love worth it. Just be honest to yourself and to your husband.

Answer 2

I'm assuming you mean held, instead of help, so I would say that it was something you have probably needed for awhile and, when you got it, you were so overjoyed that you cried and let some of your emotions out. It feels good to finally get the affection you need and crave, so when you get it, it is almost a stress-reliever.

If it happens again, it happens. Don't worry about it!

Answer 3

You should talk with him and express your most true and inner feelings to him & vise versa. You should let him know that he has not been showing you the love & affection. And that a husband is suppose to want to give & show his love & affection, to his wife, I don't know if the two of you are having problems or not, but you should tell him that he needs to express his feelings to you as well. This should be a comforting experince for not only you but your husband as well. A marriage takes two to keep it strong and devoted, not only as being lovers but also being friends. And having a close bond like that the two of you should beable to express your most inner passions, desires, problems, etc. to one another with out there being any conflicts involved at all. It also takes two to distroy a marriage. And if the two of you are unable to express your emotions, passion,desires, friendship, etc. to oneanother then you two are heading down a bumpy road that could probaly collasp or be rebuilt. It is up to the two of you how you guys want your marriage to become.Being open & honest with one another is the best .
Good Luck
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God Bless!

Answer 4

If I were you, I would find a way to make him listen to you about the being held and anything else you need for your emotional health, MAKE him listen or your marriage will never last. Don't let him get away with what he's doing. Not if you love him.

Answer 5

I give you credit for handing in there, but in the long run you are becoming more unhappy with your situation. In my opinion you are not feeling that loving feeling that you surely miss. You are becoming two individuals instead of "one". Don't cry yourself to sleep. Bop him if you have to! Make him recognize the fact that he is not there for you when you need him and that is what togetherness is all about, caring sharing and loving---togetherness. You two need to talk.

Answer 6

honey I'm sure he loves you but men aren't sensitive like we are. I'm sure he didn't mean anything by it. If you dont cry usually then you may want to get your hormones tested to see if their off a little.

Answer 7

its really bad to keep ur emotions bottled up, its healthier to cry. talk to him and express how u feeel but dont let it lead to a fight. good luck.