2006-10-20 14:26:49 · 36 answers · asked by aine2u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I gotta give my head a shake on this one
honey - quit playing with fire - your life is worth more than that
2006-10-20 14:29:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean how do you stop it? Just use your head instead of your whatever. I can tell you about affairs; you and whomever you are TRYING to have an affair with are about to lose everything you have. That includes money, property, personal posessions, and YOUR FREAKING CHILDREN, if you have any.
If you have fooled yourself into thinking that you can get away with it, you are a complete ***.
If you lose your children, they are lost for life. It took me 30 years to get my daughter back, but my little girl is lost and gone forever.
Don't be a complete ***. The world already has more than it can handle.
2006-10-20 14:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by GORDO BLAKHART 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either keep it platonic or walk away. It will only cause you heartache and pain if you persist. The word affair tells me that there are other people involed so think about all that will be hurt or destroyed by this. Think about all you will lose if you proceed, is one night of sex worth the rest of you life trying to fix the wrong you may creat. Please think long and hard once its done there is no turning back and it always comes out .
2006-10-20 14:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by cookie13606 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a stern decision of discontinuing the affair. And you will find it easier if you will focus on the results instead of your feelings. Bear in mind that it is never too late to stop what had started because you do have a choice.
2006-10-20 14:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the person the way it is . My co-worker "angel" had problems with his wife ,instead of working at it with her and saving his marriage and family he statrted to fool around with an easy woman we call "mary" a 39 -40 year old single woman who had problems landing a man or a relationship all her adult life and was desperate to have security.He left his family during the pain and confusion of divorce and rebound with this "mary" and she purposely got herself pregnant to hold him not even 3 months into the relationship.Why?,because she saw how he was sufering not having contact with his teeage kids and was afraid he go back to them.All this because of "mary".Now my poor co worker is doom, lost his fam,. lost alot of $, no contact with kids ,don't know or enjoy his grandchildren ,lost his house,and now after looking foward to retirement and resting he has to change diapers & babysit all over again.All because of "mary" who is a crazy bipolar with adhd and with a past nasty reputation everybody knows .Soo get my advice ,talk clearly ,and ruunnnnn.My coworker think we should have sympaty for him but we all think at work is that he really screw up his life pretty bad.One wrong move can change many lives if not careful.So fix that serious mistake.
2006-10-20 17:23:26 · answer #5 · answered by free@last 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want it turn into an affair, then you need to tell him this is it my friend, I cannot do this any longer with you.
Is it hard to say, yes because I have been there and done that and had it done to me.
If you can say to yourself honestly, I do not want to have this affair with this person, then try the approach I recommended.
I have been there and done that, and it has not been easy or something to brag about.
Good Luck
2006-10-20 14:42:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to make a decision - is the person you're having an affair with worth the trouble? If you're not happy in your current relationship - end it, there's no reason for that to continue. Good luck!
2006-10-20 14:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be just another answer that says stop and think of what you are doing. it really isn't worth loosing your hubby over. take it from someone who has been there and made my mistakes , for my own selfish reasons. but before the hubby found out , i realized what i was loosing. my very best friend in the world. the one person who would do anything in the world for me. and the one person would give his life for me. i am sure you shared all this too. and before it is too late , please stop an consider all you have to let go of?
2006-10-20 14:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Duh, stop talking to the person... is it that hard?? Besides what kind of person would condone you cheating on your spouse? If that the kinda person you want to be with? Do you want to loose your spouse? Do you want to go through a divorce and if you have children, a custody battle? How would your children feel about this? (torn in two I assure you). If this doesnt change your mind... Do you want to give up half of everything you own and love: your house, car, way of life, etc for a, most likely, lousy piece of ***??
2006-10-20 14:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your affiar that if he/she really cares for you then they won't put you in such an UGLY position. And then you have have to take charge of your own actions and end the affair until you know where in life you need to be.
2006-10-20 14:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by RM706 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your intuition girl! If your heart is telling you that it's wrong then stop it by taking baby steps away from that person. Tell him that you feel it's wrong and you want the relationship to stop. Then maybe stop talking on the phone or on line with him. Pretty soon you wont have any connection and you'll be proud of yourself for listening to your intuition:)
2006-10-20 14:34:35 · answer #11 · answered by aluminum22rocker 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋