My goal is to start developing some friendships so what I am doing is stepping out of my comfort zone by first going to different residence halls to eat. If you are in college you know what I am talking about). Well I get there I purposely sit at a big table so when it gets crowded people would be forced to sit their with me. But when they actually sit down I freeze up I sit there and not say one word but they don't say anything either. If I don't find the courage to strike up conversations I will never make any friends. What should I do? What should I say?
2006-10-20 13:34:01 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think you need to find some campus activities or clubs to get involved with that spark your interest. You'll naturally come out of your "shell" this way and feel like you fit in.
2006-10-20 13:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I really wish I knew the answer to this one. I have the same problem. I can tell you I've had this problem all my life and if you don't find a way to get the courage you'll never make friends and it only gets worse. So try your hardest to just say hi how are you whats your name I'm new or something. Maybe join a serority or some type of group before you become that weird kid who noone knows and who never talks to anyone.
2006-10-20 20:46:25 · answer #2 · answered by lil sis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by saying hello to everyone you come in contact with. Make some small talk about the weather or say you look familar where do I know you from? Go from there. Join some clubs the people there usually want to make friends or develop your own club. Volunteer in the community. Join myspace and you'll be on your way.
2006-10-20 20:44:18 · answer #3 · answered by nene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so weird that you would ask this question, because I have been wanting to do this for the past few weeks. My intention would be to ask girls out because I am a really shy person and I just want to be myself and see how things go. But I am really nervous about doing it. To be honest, if you sit at a table and tried to start talking to people, I think most people would look at you weird (that's why I've avoided my dating idea). I remember that there was this very awkward looking guy who approached my friends and I the very first week I started college. My friends all just laughed, but I felt really bad for him because he was just being nice and trying to meet people. We talked to him and were really nice, but I knew that my friends were all being fake. So, I would just be yourself. Maybe one group will open up and accept you. I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-20 21:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One idea is to take mental notes of what they're talking about and if you're interested in the same things you could just chime in and add your point of view. If you're nervous to just chime in, then maybe wear a shirt with something on it that they're interested in or have a cool sticker on your notebook.
Even better, check if there are any clubs on campus that you'd be interested in joining. Lots of colleges have fun clubs like ping-pong club, bowling club, or a ton of other ones. Then you'd know you have something to talk about with the people you're around and you could make friends there. Good luck!
2006-10-20 20:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ruun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dont think about it like its a big thing LISTEN TO THIS ADVICE i used to be like you the reason you arent talkin is you dont want to look foliish think about it (mentally) like it doesent matter if you look foolish,that way you WONT look foolish chances are they want to make friends too LOOSEN UP!also talk to them like youve known them forever look into their eyes and smile you eem like a nice girl.they will notice!
2006-10-20 20:48:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Email me. I'll talk to ya. I'm on the east coast.
2006-10-20 21:01:58 · answer #7 · answered by the_saint1963 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything just say whatever if you fell you can like the person.
2006-10-20 20:40:31 · answer #8 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets talk
whats up with you today
do you eat here often, hows the food, what do you suggest?
2006-10-20 20:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋