I do think that he might be interested in me, but I am not sure if I am being objective about his 'signal's. I may be interpreting them the way I want to. So how do I get a sence of what he is thinking/feeling without being inappropriate??
2006-10-20 12:15:32 · 6 answers · asked by dimenti0 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
He is not married. And I am a girl. we are only 9 years appart. He does seem to show some intrest in me (he knew my name and where I was from before I knew his, he asks me questions and e-mails me, and he knows things he could not have known if he did not look them up). But his interest in me could be purely academic. Because have never really talked about anything else. But he always smiles at me and once he even picked on me in class. So it is really hard to tell if he's sending signals or I am making them up in my head. And I just can't go and ask him!
2006-10-20 12:26:21 · update #1
And...Yes i am taking a course from him this semsester. But next semester I won't be. And I checked all rules I could find. As long as I do not take any more courses from him and he is not my advisor, it is ok to date him. And I will not do anything until the semester is over. I just want a way to understand if he is attracted or not so I don't go crazy in the meantime...
2006-10-20 12:38:51 · update #2
Sometimes we do have eye contact longer than is normal. Once I even caught him looking at me while he was actually talking to my friend (I had nothing to do with the topic)
2006-10-20 13:17:18 · update #3
Is this a gay thing or are you a chick?
I ask because if it's a gay thing, I don't know.
If you're a girl, I'd suggest you flirt with him A LITTLE. Not a lot. Just enough for him to think "Is she flirting with me?...hhmm I'm not sure."
If he flirts back, then you flirt back a little with him. You must build sexual attraction.
If he's married, please don't do any of this as it is totally inappropriate (not to mention horrible karma).
2006-10-20 12:21:46 · answer #1 · answered by Edward 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that anything that you said even resembles him being interested in you actually. Most graduate professors have a really deep interest in all the students and this is probably what is going on here. Honestly, focus on your schoolwork, graduate school is hard enough.
2006-10-20 20:08:20 · answer #2 · answered by lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still a student at the university, it is UNETHICAL to have a romantic/sexual relationship with your professor, and in some cases even if he is NOT your professor. Many institutions have rules against that sort of behavior; the prof could risk losing his job.
Let this one go. Find yourself a cute post-doc researcher in a different department instead.
2006-10-20 19:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by Gumdrop Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a classic teacher/student relationship. It is natural you are drawn to him. But you will get over it.
Don't start something that you can't finish. May be he is happily married with a couple of kids. You want to be the home wrecker?
Your youth is attractive enough. Man, past his 35 or 40 will very *easily* fall for you. That's the way men are made. You make one suggestive move and he will get the message. But...........
Don't.........I am telling you............walk away...............It will get extremely messy.
2006-10-20 19:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nightrider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really use your brain to get a good paying job and keep it out of the clouds wondering if someone likes you. If he liked you then hopefully he would be a man and tell you.
2006-10-20 19:17:34 · answer #5 · answered by natmys333 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him
2006-10-20 19:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nora G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋