I hate that. I'm 15, but still. People mature differently. There's a question about a girl in 6th grade who want to know how she can talk to a guy she really likes......one person's response was "you're too young to be ruining your life...." or something like that. Seriously, how does wanting a relationsip with another human being at a young age ruin someone's life? I'd think it'd be rather beneficial; learning right from wrong, what your type of guy is, about caring for another person...what's so wrong with learning that a younger age?!
2006-10-20 12:01:03 · 13 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I loved being a teenager and flirting with all the guys. I just didn't date any of them and they hated that. But that is okay because I'm all grown up now (30), and am married with four children.
I think the concern of the adults on this board is that you have so much life ahead of you. A sixth grader should be playing with barbie's still. it breaks my heart to see children and teens rushing to adulthood.
2006-10-20 12:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Traditional Gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most ppl are old fashioned and dont like to hear about "kids" dating. Pah. I HATE that word, it's another word for a baby goat! Back then, ppl didnt really talk about crushes. Now it's everywhere. I see nothing wrong w/ a crush. It is a natural and sometimes beautiful thing. Puppy love, or watevs. And dating at a young age, not bad. I dont see why ppl complain. Most teen relationships dont even last that long. Just b/c two ppl are going out doesnt mean they are having sex, which is what all these old ppl are assuming. And even if they're having sex, it's their business, as long as they know all the consequences and take it seriously. If they're not, then that's bad. But if they know very well wat they're doing, then let them be. But I can understand how parents dont want their child getting hurt. But trying to yank them back and bar them from the world aint gonna work. They'll just get mad and rebel. You just have to let them learn for themselves. Tell them the consequences, then everything else is their decision. It's like letting ur child fall off a bike once in a while. If you try to cushion the sidewalk, your child wont be able to learn pain. But ppl still cant accept that, and they do have a point...STDs and babies are not little boo-boos that go away. But if that happens to them, it's their responsibility. The parents did all they could.
But really, simple dating isnt evil. So they'll have a couple of kisses. So wat? Only 15% of teens actually have sex. The rest who say they are having sex are just lying to make themselves be "acceptable" to their peers.
On a side note, this is actually a section under pregnancy and parenting. Even though it says adolescents, it's really a website to help parents on how to RAISE adolescents, not a site for adolescents to talk about their little love problems. But no one cares, so why should you or I care?
2006-10-20 17:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by fliptastic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, there is nothing wrong with 6th grade and olders kids having a boyfriend/girlfriend. That's the age most kids start maturing, and having "crushes" on other people. As long as kids are appropriate with their relathionships it's fine. Like you said, it's beneficial because they learn what and what not to do at an appropriate age. However, if parents are not informed of such relathionships, or parents do not agree with their child having a boyfriend/girlfriend, the kid will just have to learn how to deal. And most kids around six grade aren't having boyfriends/girlfriends because they want to be older. They just have feelings for someone else. That's not a bad thing.
2006-10-20 14:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by Yeahsx3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply because 6th grade (12 years old) is too young to be thinking about boys! whether, you or anyone else believes that they are mature at 12 is beyond insane!
Now 15 years old......okay that's different! I myself was mature at but 12.....your just learning how to take responsibility.
We as older adults tend to make such a big deal out of these things because we were once 12 years old and some of us jumped the gun to be mature and things didn't work out as planned. There for we as adults are trying to warn our younger people about the mistakes we made to try and help them not make the same mistakes we made as youngsters. Not to put them down by any means.
However, we all know that everyone has to learn from their own mistakes, but people seem to think more about the decisions they are about to make by reading the stories and opinions of others.
That is what this board is for. people ask questions and others give their opinions!
2006-10-20 12:11:55 · answer #4 · answered by Due Dec23rd...It's a GIRL! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're too young to understand!
Young people cannot handle the responsibilities of a relationship. It is not healthy for them to be getting so caught up in boys at such a young age. Young people need to be focused on their school work and sports, and other healthy activities.
Do you not see how many postings there are everyday from high school girls saying " I think I might be pregnant, we just did it one time, my bf said nothing would happen". Every day, another teenager gets pregnant because she and her boyfriend are too stupid to use condoms, because "but we love each other".
Being a teenager is a very emotional and your hormones are out of whack. There's nothing wrong with as you say "learning right from wrong, and caring for another person" but those are not things that having a boyfriend will teach you... like I said, you are too young to understand!
2006-10-20 12:14:48 · answer #5 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they are stupid and don't understand lol although i will tell you i met my bf when i was 16, im now 20 and hes 25, and we've been together every since, we now have a beatiful baby girl, but there have been times that i have wondered what could have been...sometimes i feel like where did it all go i didnt get my chance to really get out there and "date" and have fun...but when your 16 you just dont care until later on, i dont know but if you are in a serious relationship i beg of you to think what you are doing and make sure that he really is someone u want to be with because it hurts a lot of feelings if later on you decide that you want someone else!
2006-10-20 12:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Christy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people who say that u r to young to be ruining ur life have just been hurt by love before, and are just bitter. or some people think it is silly for younger people to have mature feelings like love. these peple just dont remember when they were in sixth grade and having the same feelings.
2006-10-20 12:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by nikki G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because a lot of girls that start dating too young can end up becoming teen parents, get an STD, lie to their parents and try to sneak out of the house. A girl I went to middle school with got an incurable STD...in 8th grade...how sad that her life was "Ruined" before she actually had a chance to start it.
2006-10-20 12:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe at your age its o.k. to start dating,But 6th grade!come on!you girls are in such a hurry to grow up,Trust me,its not what its cracked up to be!Keep your youth sweety as long as you can because once its gone,its gone for good,there,s no getting it back!enjoy being young!Hollywood
2006-10-20 12:06:36 · answer #9 · answered by hollywood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to read these same questions over and over again:
How do I know if he likes me?
How do I get someone to like me?
I like my friends boy or girlfriend. What should I do?
Am I pregnant?
And so on and on. This board is not for minors.
2006-10-20 12:07:06 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋